RaidDolEm78 Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Well, that anger that I've been mentioning lately came out tonight, and not in a good way. I received another text from him tonight about my plans with the car ( I ignored the one he sent me last week) I simply said that it is too soon to be taking about this since I haved even filed yet, but I may need a little more time because I'm having problems with the car and may need to fix it first. Apparently that wasn't the answer he wanted to hear, and he flipped out on me. So my anger came out and I told him that if him and his little girlfriend couldn't wait until I paid off the car, then he take it and trade it in and ill sign whatever needed to be signed at the dealership. At first he tried to say that what I said was ridiculous, and if I really tried hard, I could act like an adult. I said I can't believe you're telling me to act like an adult when you're dating a 17 year old. I said no wonder you told me you couldn't be in a relationship with me...adults give love and respect which is too much for you I guess. I also said that its really said, she is five years older than his son and that the two of them must have so much in common. His only response? She has nothing to do with this. I said she knew you were in a relationship and so did you. And then I ignored him I can't wait to not have anything tied to him anymore. I know I shouldn't have said all that. It just angers me that he continues lying to me, thinking he pulled the wool over my eyes by telling me he needed to get his sh*t together before getting into another relationship, when he already moved this girl in. Ugh, I knew better than to do what I did.
AnyaNova Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Well, that anger that I've been mentioning lately came out tonight, and not in a good way. I received another text from him tonight about my plans with the car ( I ignored the one he sent me last week) I simply said that it is too soon to be taking about this since I haved even filed yet, but I may need a little more time because I'm having problems with the car and may need to fix it first. Apparently that wasn't the answer he wanted to hear, and he flipped out on me. So my anger came out and I told him that if him and his little girlfriend couldn't wait until I paid off the car, then he take it and trade it in and ill sign whatever needed to be signed at the dealership. At first he tried to say that what I said was ridiculous, and if I really tried hard, I could act like an adult. I said I can't believe you're telling me to act like an adult when you're dating a 17 year old. I said no wonder you told me you couldn't be in a relationship with me...adults give love and respect which is too much for you I guess. I also said that its really said, she is five years older than his son and that the two of them must have so much in common. His only response? She has nothing to do with this. I said she knew you were in a relationship and so did you. And then I ignored him I can't wait to not have anything tied to him anymore. I know I shouldn't have said all that. It just angers me that he continues lying to me, thinking he pulled the wool over my eyes by telling me he needed to get his sh*t together before getting into another relationship, when he already moved this girl in. Ugh, I knew better than to do what I did. I think most dumpees have regrets about their behavior. It is normal. Forgive yourself and go easy on yourself.
Author RaidDolEm78 Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 I think most dumpees have regrets about their behavior. It is normal. Forgive yourself and go easy on yourself. Thank you...I've always been too hard on myself...I'm just so embarrassed that I acted so emotionally still, eight months later. Like all that hard work I've been doing since the breakup to feel better just went straight out the window.
Author RaidDolEm78 Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 So I had my weekly therapy session tonight and we spent majority of the session talking about what happened. She is proud of me for speaking my mind because she knew how long I've had this built up. And she feels that by me speaking my mind, it told him now that he can't lie to me anymore because I know the truth. I still feel like I stooped to his level and should have left things alone by not saying anything. What's done is done, I guess.
Eau Claire Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Your therapist is proud of you? She actually said those words? Is this a trained psychologist?
Author RaidDolEm78 Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 Your therapist is proud of you? She actually said those words? Is this a trained psychologist? Yes, yes and yes. Up until this weeks session I liked her and and liked how everything was progressing up until this point.
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