ShreyaD Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I still think about him but I don't get the butterflies in my stomach anymore. It kind of hurts when I see him talking about her (new gf - the one he left me for) but it doesn't last as long. It doesn't hurt seeing his photos anymore. It doesn't hurt seeing her photos anymore. I'm not crying for him anymore. Am I over him?
LiliesNoLilies Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Looks like you are over him - but maybe not the relationship and all the hurt yet. Take your time, keep moving. You're doing beautifully. 2
rosedl Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Sounds like you are getting over him and doing well with it I am in the same phase. I am still carrying the hurt but it isn't so much focused on thinking of him, more about how I feel betrayed and feeling how much his rejection hurt me. Anger is mixed in there too. He was a jerk and blamed me for his behavior (which he has a lifelong history of repeating). Not feeling urges to call and try to reconcile. Realize who he is and that I can't go near this person, he isn't who I thought I knew and he was putting on a big front when he thought this was what he wanted and then, became a different person to me entirely. It was like an on-off switch. The accepting over not reconciling has been big. 2
Carly Lou Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I can't wait for the day when I won't think of him and her, you're doing great x
jphcbpa Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Could be the healing of many relationships at the same time.
lop98 Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I know I'm over him because daydreaming and just fantasizing before falling asleep doesn't include him, I also don't dream about him, or think much about him unless I'm on my own and after more than 2 hours of solid boredom. The mere thought of having him back in my life is as exciting as taking back a job you quit, going back to 7th grade... I'm not over the experience though... I hate to admit that it was traumatizing, the amount of pain he inflicted on me, the lies, finding out, sometimes a song or even just a type of weather will remind me of the days when it all happened and I truly feel this subtle warm pressure inside my head, just like that day, and it makes me realize the pain is still there, stored for most days but still there nonetheless. I don't know how to make it go away but maybe it's useful because it's prevented me from letting him back in just to give me more, it's also worked as a good fortress that allowed me to carry on and lead a good life without him. 1
Tayla Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 you'll know your over him when you can speak objectively about his good qualities as well as his shorcomings without emotional deterrants. Its when your mind is at peace with yourself and you can go...Yep! I dated that, am thankful for the experience and can now move on with a smile... 1
Sandy99 Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I dated somebody some years ago and I am completely over him. I know this because if I talk to him through email I encourage him to work things out with his current girlfriend, I seriously hope and wish things work out with his current girlfriend, and I tell him specifically that we will never date again and I absolutely mean it. He is just another person out in the world to me now and I have told him not to hurt his current girlfriend because she doesn't deserve it even though I have never met her nor do I really know anything about her. If you feel this way about your ex then you are over him. You will know when you are over him. It's very clear when this is the case.
Author ShreyaD Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 I completely understand that. There are certain things as part of my life that remind me of him as well but it is becoming less painful now. I still read his horoscopes at the same time as mine. It keeps saying he is thinking about old relationships and that gave me hope before, but now I don't really care anymore because I know it won't happen. I don't feel that panging pain in my heart anymore. I know I'm over him because daydreaming and just fantasizing before falling asleep doesn't include him, I also don't dream about him, or think much about him unless I'm on my own and after more than 2 hours of solid boredom. The mere thought of having him back in my life is as exciting as taking back a job you quit, going back to 7th grade... I'm not over the experience though... I hate to admit that it was traumatizing, the amount of pain he inflicted on me, the lies, finding out, sometimes a song or even just a type of weather will remind me of the days when it all happened and I truly feel this subtle warm pressure inside my head, just like that day, and it makes me realize the pain is still there, stored for most days but still there nonetheless. I don't know how to make it go away but maybe it's useful because it's prevented me from letting him back in just to give me more, it's also worked as a good fortress that allowed me to carry on and lead a good life without him.
bubblesbursted Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I completely understand that. There are certain things as part of my life that remind me of him as well but it is becoming less painful now. I still read his horoscopes at the same time as mine. It keeps saying he is thinking about old relationships and that gave me hope before, but now I don't really care anymore because I know it won't happen. I don't feel that panging pain in my heart anymore. You are doing great. Well done. I wish I could one day say that as well.
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