longingdistance Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Hello I am a guy who is currently dating a girl. Our relationship is now 3.5 years long and just recently we started long distance dating together. The distance is hard for me to handle, but I am trying to make it work because this girl is someone I want to marry. Unfortunately, I have not really dated much outside of her, she is my first serious relationship and recently I am guilty of committing crimes of the cheating kind. The first girl, I kissed her. We haven't talked since that moment. The second girl, we did a little bit more than kissing but I stopped myself in the moment. I am also not trying to talk with her because I don't want to ruin what I have with my current girlfriend, but I feel like I already have... I told my current girlfriend about the first girl and I told her about a laundry list of issues that I had with her. The conversation went better than I thought it was going to go because we hashed out many of the issues that bothered us up until that point. Well, I thought I was okay but here I am again cheating on my girlfriend with someone I just met. I don't know what to do. The girls I chose to do this with are people I am probably never going to talk again, but that doesn't justify my actions. There are hundreds of other hours of events that took place to lead me to where I am right now, but I will leave that out. If no one responds to this, I guess it's okay I just need to tell someone about what I have done. TL;DR Should I break up with my girlfriend after cheating on her with two girls.
flightplan Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 If you were in your girlfriends shoes, would you appreciate your behavior? How would you feel if she did the exact same thing? You're clearly not ready to commit to this woman. She deserves better. Be a man and do the right thing.
Itspointless Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Why is this a long distance problem? It seems your problem is right with you. Unfortunately, I have not really dated much outside of her, she is my first serious relationship ... The fact that you write 'unfortunately' signals your problem. I am trying to make it work because this girl is someone I want to marry. ... Someone, or the one? If you haven't agreed to an open arrangement the fair choice for her would be the one between lust or love. 1
Omei Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Break up with her, she deserves better and tell her •everything• might sound cruel but if you tell her everything maybe she will be able to move on faster than thinking someone she cared for left her because you obviously don't. 1
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