iamwalrus Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 hello, i need some advice on how to let a girl know that i really like her without actually being obvious. in other words, let her know that i like her, but don't let her know that I know she's figuring it out. (actually, it's hard to put into words. its kinda like a "don't let her know that you know" type thing, if you know what im saying. so in other words, my plan is for her to think "OMG does he like me" rather than "OMG do you like me" i think you probably get my drift. kinda use an "absense of proof" sorta thing.... so the reason i write this email.... is there any advice you "love experts" have on this type of thing? does the above sound cool? thank you.
alphamale Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by iamwalrus my plan is for her to think "OMG does he like me" rather than "OMG do you like me" i think you probably get my drift. No, I don't get your drift.
Hund1976 Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 You could use a third party, find someone you both know and have then tell her something like "you know I think Bob thinks you're cute" or something like that. Or you could just go and ask her out, that would probably be about ten times easier.
Author iamwalrus Posted January 14, 2005 Author Posted January 14, 2005 i don't think you guys know what i'm saying... i'll make up an analogy: jack likes Jill. jack sits across the lunchroom from jill. jack is always looking at jill, and he really likes her. one day when he is looking at her, she happens to look over at him. 2 things could happen... 1. he keeps looking at her... (were talking "the look" not just a look. we all know the difference between "the look" and just looking at someone. so while he keeps looking at her, she notices that he is attracted to her, making her acknowledge that and every time she sees him in the halls, she'll treat him differently, knowing that he likes her, and that she is ...OMG this is hard to put into words.... OK... you can't tell me that you've never been in a situation where you have had to use this type of thing.... it's like a "let her know you like her, but don't let her know that YOU know that she noticed... because: if SHE knows that YOU know that she realizes that you like her, your relationship with her will be different, because she will treat you as a guy that likes her and not a friend... and she will have to, becuase you both know that you BOTH KNOW that you like her. but if you know you like her, and she knows you like her, and you know that she knows that you like her.... but she DOESN"T know that you know that she figured it out... she will not have to talk to you differently, because she will not feel weird. it's kind of like abstract thinking. its not rocket science... i can think of another way to explain it... compare the two: 1. joe tells larry that he is gay 2. george tells larry that joe is gay now, which one is going to socially effect the relationship between joe and larry more? number 1, of course, because when joe and larry get together, they will both know, and there will be a burden... a social anxiety, or so to speak but if it's number 2, larry will be able to get together with joe, and not have to be obligated to talk about his homosexuality, because they don't know that each other knows. you get my drift? it's like a "what you don't know can't hurt you" type thing. think about this little analogy... its not stupid
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