ithappenedagain Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Hey all - So I toured an apartment today that was really nice. It is in a GREAT neighborhood with restaurants, bars, and friends within walking distance. Slight problem though... Which is why I am reaching out to you. It is nearby our old place. My only other option is to move to the suburbs and be about 30 minutes away from the downtown life I have grown accustomed to. I spoke to my good friend and he said to not even worry about it. She doesn't even have to know that I am living there. It's just that I am so used to this area, I would feel completely empty living in an unknown area - as a newly single person.
seekingpeaceinlove Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Don't worry about it! You can't live your life based around someone you used to date in the past. If you happen to run into her..so be it. That's life. How long has it been since the break up? Did it end on good terms? 2
organizedchaos Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I live 5 minutes away from my ex. In the 6 months we've been bu I just ran in to her for the first time at the grocery store. Don't sweat it and don't let someone else dictate where you can and can't live. It's your life. 2
seekingpeaceinlove Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 My ex and I live literally around the corner from each other. It's been 5.5 months since the break up and I haven't run into him once. The first few months though, I avoided going to the local grocery store, driving down the street his house is on, and always looked over my shoulder. After some time I thought, this is ridiculous. I will not allow someone to hold that kind of power over me..ex or not. Now, I actually want to run into him so he can see how amazing I look. I live 5 minutes away from my ex. In the 6 months we've been bu I just ran in to her for the first time at the grocery store. Don't sweat it and don't let someone else dictate where you can and can't live. It's your life. 2
Author ithappenedagain Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 Well I just got approved for the place! Exciting! Yet why do I have a funny feeling in my stomach?! Could it just be the shock of officially 'starting over' by moving into my own place? Could it be the fact that she does live a few blocks away and I am afraid of bumping into her? Who knows... Arrrrrrrrg!!!! I have until tomorrow morning to decide.
Author ithappenedagain Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 Don't worry about it! You can't live your life based around someone you used to date in the past. If you happen to run into her..so be it. That's life. How long has it been since the break up? Did it end on good terms? It's only been 11 days officially, but she told me she wanted to seperate a little over 2 weeks ago. She basically told me she didnt want to be with me anymore. I did the classic begging/pleading for a few days and then after thinking about things a few more days she said she was solid on her decision. I started strict no contact 7 days ago. It wasnt a screaming/fighting/insane ending, it just happened. It's weird to explain. She wished me the best and future happiness and that was it.
organizedchaos Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 It's only been 11 days officially, but she told me she wanted to seperate a little over 2 weeks ago. She basically told me she didnt want to be with me anymore. I did the classic begging/pleading for a few days and then after thinking about things a few more days she said she was solid on her decision. I started strict no contact 7 days ago. It wasnt a screaming/fighting/insane ending, it just happened. It's weird to explain. She wished me the best and future happiness and that was it. Same way mine ended man. Sucks when it ends like that. Take the place, don't let her ruin this for you too.
darkmoon Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 single people must live in busy areas, the suburbs are very quiet, busy areas have lots of other single people, that is how it works, rhumba xx
rosedl Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 My ex lives two blocks away. I have never run into him once during the three months 'space' or the month since the break up. I am sure he is actively trying to avoid running into me. I am sure it will happen. I plan on ignoring him. He was a total jerk in the end. No need to engage. I plan on leaving the area, but not because of him. I live in a community where there are hardly any single people and this house is too big for one person. So, off I go. But, if I wanted to stay, I would stay.
Better Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I live about three blocks away from my ex-wife in a metropolitan area. We've both been here for more than two years, and I've only accidentally run into her once. I wouldn't worry about it. Live your life based on what it important to you, not based on when you might run into an ex. I love where I live and wouldn't even consider moving based on a relationship that is now over.
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