Vittoryxe Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Hey all, I'm in a new relationship (a few dates, lots of texting, etc.) with a guy, and I'm falling pretty hard pretty quickly. We're both early-mid 20s, by the way. He's a bit of a shy one sometimes, and I'm afraid I might move too quickly and scare him off even though I can tell he's into me. It's something I've done before, and I don't want it to happen again. Any tips? I feel like I'm being pushy just cause I want to see him again soon... Thanks!
mammasita Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I'm a warp speed mover too. All we can do is relax and go with the flow. Anything else has potential to ruin things.
deathandtaxes Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Either it works, and he's for you. And if it doesn't, then you're just not for each other. I have encountered so many women that wanted to be glacial in their pace. And that's just not me. But I meet a lady that wants the same pace and we're golden, at least in the regards.
TheyCallMeOx Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 If you're not at the same pace in the beginning, you're not going to be at the same pace when things start to get really serious. What you feel is exactly how you should feel. If he's a dude you want to date and you feel confident in the longevity of it, then you have to acknowledge that and see if he feels the same way. Otherwise, he's not as confident as you are...which would indicate more doubt in potential than you feel. If he has no baggage and doesn't feel as confident as you feel, then there's probably a reason why he doesn't feel the same way you feel, and that reason may become a problem if things were to escalate into something more.
deathandtaxes Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I'll add a few more cents. I had recently went on a series of dates with two different women. Fairly casual. I was in to both of them. But they were taking things so slow. Barely texting between dates. Barely wanted to go out once a week. And they both ended things because they thought I wanted things faster. Well, I did, but I think they wanted things really, really slow but I was fine with their pace. So obviously I wasn't compatible with either of them. Recently, I meet this lady on match. And we set up a first date. And she gives me her number and we start texting, a lot. We have the first date, and it's great! And we keep texting a lot. First date was on a Monday, and we then see each other Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. And have more plans for Friday and Saturday. So obviously we are at least compatible with the moving a little faster and communicating more.
Author Vittoryxe Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 Thanks for the responses, people! I always overthink things...always. I'm always afraid to misread signals, but I feel like he really is into me. Texting all the time unless we're at work, he calls me a lot of cute pet names, tells me he misses talking to me when I'm busy, etc. I've just read into things too much in the past, and it worries me, but he's SUCH a sweetheart. He's got his life together (very different than men I've dated in the past....), he's smart, funny....and it sure as hell doesn't hurt that he is seriously hot. I haven't been with someone I felt this good about in a long time....I'm just afraid of screwing it up!
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