Kill_Bill Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I was a dumpee.*I was with my ex for almost 2 years before we broke up 3 months ago. I gave her a gift after breaking up (I know it isn't a good idea but I gave because I thought it might can change her mind in that time). now I want the gift back, she isn't worth it when thinking about her bad reaction, cold shoulder and nc. I will ask for friends to go to get it and also return her stuff. what you guys think?
Zahara Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 It was a gift. Let it go. It's immature to give something because you think you can buy them or change their mind and then want it back when it doesn't go your way. As for her stuff, return it all. 5
flightplan Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Let it go. Your creating drama for no good reason. Move on. 1
Mondmellonw Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I think you shouldn't ask that gift back. It's useless. It was also useless to give it to her at the time, but now I don't really see a point on asking it back. If you lend her something, or she lend you something... Well, that's a different story. But gifts... I am not sure. If you don't want her gifts any more, just throw them away, put them in a cage, etc. 1
CaliGypsy Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 It's not a gift if it comes with strings. If I were you? I would be the bigger person and I would not ask for the item back. It only makes you look petty, really. I know it can be hard when you've been hurt to look past it, but I think you'll be happy you did in the long run. 1
erklat Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 You will feel lame in the long run if you do so. I also gifted her with cute and original gift she didn't even acknowledge. I felt like **** but not once crossed my mind asking it back. It only proved to me she is worthless.
Author Kill_Bill Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 Thank you guys. I will let it go and her stuff I give it all for donation. It was a waste time with this ex but at least it teach and make me learn to grow up and be stronger. 3
pickflicker Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I was a dumpee.*I was with my ex for almost 2 years before we broke up 3 months ago. I gave her a gift after breaking up (I know it isn't a good idea but I gave because I thought it might can change her mind in that time). now I want the gift back, she isn't worth it when thinking about her bad reaction, cold shoulder and nc. I will ask for friends to go to get it and also return her stuff. what you guys think? Lame. All gifts given become spoils of war. If you want to look like a petty fool who isn't over his ex-gf, this is a great way to start.
d0nnivain Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Unless what you have her was some sort of heirloom with great sentimental value, don't ask for it back. You come off as petty. She won't give it back to you anyway & then you look weak. 1
Jord11 Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 My ex still has her $600 iPad 4 that I bought her last christmas, never asked for it back, she dumped me 3 weeks later, but I won't be that guy, even though I'd like it back! Like I said I won't 1
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