why oh why Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Me and wife split up several months ago have tried everything to try again and just hit a brick wall everytime. She refuses to see me and the only way she will speak is by text. I have to arrange everything via her parents over seeing my kids can't even talk to her about them....I went no Nc for 12 days. Which was so very hard....she then msg me about one of the kids which I answered as its about my child....then its back to normal...... feel back to square one She only talks when she wants something...... has told me she wants a divorse and have to wait for at least a year for that to happen.....said we are never ever getting back together.....still love her....after 13 yes together not easy to switch off how I feel......feeling really low.....since the split we not had that much time with NC maybe a couple of months vanishing will change things.....? But hard to go NC when kids and need to see them......so mixed up and feel empty
Author why oh why Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 I guess I'm kidding myself that things are going to change after what she has said
somecamel Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 How many times did you try to start again? How many times was this reciprocated? How did the relationship get to this stage? What happened?
Author why oh why Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 Since break up every time I get same reply no chance of getting back together. Been several weeks ....split up a few months ago.....she said she Dont love me anymore and wants to be on her own....there isn't anyone else. Was married 10 years
pickflicker Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 You need to go and speak to a lawyer about hammering out a custody agreement now. Don't wait for the divorce.
somecamel Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I don't want to sound mean but you're in denial that your relationship has ended. I get that it's hard, you were together for a long time. How has it got to the stage that you have to go through the grandparents to sort out access? The line between love and hate is very small, don't love, don't hate, become indifferent to it. You need to start thinking about number one, that's you.
Author why oh why Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 She said I have to arrange via grandparents as she Dont want to talk to me I can see the kids whenever I want to just can't ask her direct....as she just ignores me if i even txt her about the kids.....not seen her now for 40 days She refuses to see me or talk
pickflicker Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 She said I have to arrange via grandparents as she Dont want to talk to me I can see the kids whenever I want to just can't ask her direct....as she just ignores me if i even txt her about the kids.....not seen her now for 40 days She refuses to see me or talk Then stop contacting her and continue to use the grandparents as the intermediary. And get a lawyer.
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