NYyanks819 Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Hey guys, This is seriously the hardest thing I have had to do ever. I do think about her a lot, etc but I am just trying to keep busy. Also there is a mixer/match meet up tomorrow from 7-10pm, I am looking forward to going to it so I can meet some other women who are also my age 22-25, single and good looking! I know if I can find something similar to her it would help keep me distracted and this mixer events (stir) meet ups are a great idea
David87 Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 What's so hard about doing nothing? Do you wanna make a fool out of yourself by caling her and texting her ? or maybe take a sneak pick at her Fb page to see how she's dooing.? Move on with your life, find a better one, that's our job. Sorry for being hard on you but life is hard to. 2
Author NYyanks819 Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 I know checking her fb page it the one thing but it will set me back I know that..Thank you will do! I just come on here when I am having a moment
barky2 Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 What should be the hardest is watching my redsox win a championship while y'all didn't even make the playoffs lol jk Listen man, everyday you stick to nc it gets easier. Soon you won't be counting days and you'll be fine. But you have to put in the work to get to that point. And at the end of all of this, you'll be a much better oerson. Barky 1
realfriends Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I will have to disagree slightly with Barky. For me, it didn't get easier everyday, at least not initially. It got harder and harder. Eventually though it will get easier in time but you have to put in the effort. But it will be well worth it in the end.
TheyCallMeOx Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I was lucky. My ex-girlfriend disabled and blocked me from accessing a lot of her social websites (such as Tumblr). One day, I looked at her Tumblr to see if it was back up, and it was. I saw some new content that would've potentially devastated me if I had saw that stuff during the initial break-up. When I saw all that stuff, I realized that there is absolutely NO BENEFIT for me looking in on her life or trying to contact her; only pain. If my ex-girlfriend still loved me and wanted to get back with me, she'd know my number...she could just call me up. The only reason why I looked in on her life was because I thought that...maybe...she'll say something that will indicate she is still in love with me. However, what I saw that day when I visited her Tumblr...it was the exact opposite of what I expected. NC is for your benefit. The purpose of NC isn't to deprive you, or prevent you from getting what you want. The NC rule is there for you because it was advice that was built by people who have learned that the pain you feel from not being able to contact her or learn about her life is FAR less severe than the pain you'll feel when you're looking on her website and she'll have something posted that may potentially devastate you. NC is for your protection. It's like a bullet proof vest; sure, it might be a little bit heavy...but you won't regret wearing it when you get shot in the chest. NC is your friend, and there's valid reasons why you should follow it. When you realize this, the temptation goes away fairly quickly. There's times where I want to look at her Tumblr, but those thoughts quickly go away because I KNOW that I'm going to get hurt. Now that it's been a month or so since I've lasted visited her Tumblr, I know there's going to be PAGES and PAGES of new information. If I visited that Tumblr today, I would probably spend the next 20 minutes looking at her content and be crying 20 minutes afterwards and calling myself "stupid" because of the ****ed up decision I made to check it out. So what do I do to avoid that? I assume that there's nothing good on that blog about me. I assume that she's got pictures of her and some new guy, her smiling, and I assume that she'll have pictures that have quotes like "I'm learning to love again" or something like that. I'll also assume she'll have text updates about her life saying how much better she is without me, and how much happier she is with the new dude. When I assume the worst, which is actually...last time I checked her Tumblr, not that very far off from the truth, then I can accurately predict what it's going to say without going on there. I already know that **** it's going to have, so why bother looking at the site in the first place? Also, you really have to come to terms with the fact that she's going to do whatever she wants. If she is the one who initiated the break-up, then she's probably not checking in on your life. So why should you? Move on, bro. You're going to be okay.
Author NYyanks819 Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 haha yeah! the yanks don't remind me.. but yeah, so wait for you too it got harder and harder in the beginning? I very badly want to check her social media page, but know it will set me back.. So for how long in the beginning did it take until it started to get a little easier? I am thinking by day 30 or so? It just seems like everything reminds me of this damn girl! lol
realfriends Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Yeah, 30-45 seemed to be where things started to get a little easier but only because I made the effort. Im at day uh 65 and things are much easier than day 15, but there are still thoughts and emotions that come and go. Its like a roller coaster.
Author NYyanks819 Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 Ok awesome, man that gives me hope and makes me feel better at least.. I think the problem is "in the beginning of NC" we are all like F*** This girl I am better than her etc.. than when reality hits around weeks 2-3 it gets harder.. you know what I mean? Anyone else with similar experience
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