mirage12 Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 It's been about 2.5 months post BU (relationship was only 8 months officially, seeing each other for almost a year) and maybe 2 weeks NC. Is anyone else at this stage? I sometimes think I'm doing better - been keeping as busy as possible, going out when there's the opportunity, doing things I'm invited to, even when I don't want to. But the sadness comes in waves and this morning was worse than usual. I'm struggling with the fact that she's no longer reaching out and that we haven't seen each other once since we split. I miss her but it's been long enough to where I also don't remember very well what it's like to have her be a part of my daily life...and I think that's the worst part, to realize that I'm losing that completely. I want to do something, anything, even if there's no point or the end result will set me back. I want to write an email, send a message...anything to feel like I'm doing SOMETHING. I don't want to accept the fact that I may never see her again, even though we ended on good terms Anyone else at this stage or feeling like this?
bubblesbursted Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 You have survived 2 weeks dude! Thats amazing. And I understand I want to do all that even on the 1st day of NC. It would be hypocritical of me to say you shouldnt feel it but its normal I guess? You shouldnt break the NC. I know its hard feeling that person not next to you anymore. Knowing they dont feel the same about it. It sucks but you have to keep going! You are strong. 1
Minneloa Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 It's been about 2.5 months post BU (relationship was only 8 months officially, seeing each other for almost a year) and maybe 2 weeks NC. Is anyone else at this stage? I sometimes think I'm doing better - been keeping as busy as possible, going out when there's the opportunity, doing things I'm invited to, even when I don't want to. But the sadness comes in waves and this morning was worse than usual. I'm struggling with the fact that she's no longer reaching out and that we haven't seen each other once since we split. I miss her but it's been long enough to where I also don't remember very well what it's like to have her be a part of my daily life...and I think that's the worst part, to realize that I'm losing that completely. I want to do something, anything, even if there's no point or the end result will set me back. I want to write an email, send a message...anything to feel like I'm doing SOMETHING. I don't want to accept the fact that I may never see her again, even though we ended on good terms Anyone else at this stage or feeling like this? I am sorry you are struggling. The bolded above are impulses that, if you resist them, will fade after you have more NC under your belt. Contacting her will, almost inevitably, set you back, so grit your teeth and make a rational decision instead of an emotional one. Two weeks is not that long, and it takes a while for the heart to catch up with the head. Until then, trust in the process and perhaps read threads here where folks document the (usually) emotionally harrowing results of contact. Sending good thoughts!
erklat Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 It will be tough as described. In about three weeks you won't believe you were stupid enough to depress yourself over her. Stay strong and stick to the plan. You'll halfway through. 1
pickflicker Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 The thing is, despite you being 2.5 months post BU, you're really only 2 weeks because you keep breaking NC. Every time you break NC, you hit the reset button, and it becomes day one of BU.
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