Guitarisgood Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I work in a tight knit group of workers. Basically we're all in our 20'sish and students. Work gets done with plenty of time for us to have fun. We recently had an influx of new workers of which we kept one - the girl I have a thing for. She is good friends with the manager (who is new too) and had been away for a while. Now this manager is new so does not know how she and I seem to have a more flirtatious and teasing relationship compared to everyone else. Well this 'new girl' recently returned and at the start of our shifts our manager pulled us aside - typical with every day to tell us what our duties for the day were. I was not surprised by that nor by her assigning us to two separate areas. What I was amused at was her slight comment about how 'I know you two. Nothing will get done if you are both together'. Now this threw me off balance. I mean surely the manager knows nothing of whats been going between me and this said girl? Or because they are friends, she may have bought it up to her? I know our store is always full of gossip about who is dating who etc etc. So tell me this if my manager is having a playful dig at us, does that mean 'new girl' thinks theres something going on between us and so has gone to her friend (the manager) for advice? It's weird because I'm playful and tease everyone else just as much and more in the open too.
Philosoraptor Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 This makes my head hurt. Just ask the girl out that you have a thing for then you won't have to speculate any longer. You're doing nothing but wasting time and emotion living in a state of wonder and reading too much into every little thing. 1
Author Guitarisgood Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 Haha mate. But this is not about that. I'm not after that aspect of this scenario. I just want to figure this part out. Whether she has actually told someone abouts the going on of things or whether it's just coincedental that the new manager said what she said.
SYLLPalmer Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 This is inappropriate for the work place but consistent with your age group. You are the recipient of the telephone game. Do with the information what you will but I wouldn't **** where I eat if I were you. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Yes young women...teen to 25ish not only discuss their love lives in great detail many of them give friends veto power over their love lives. If she likes you and her friends don't then she wont go out with you (at least not officially and openly). That and other people often see what's between two people before those people do. An experienced adult learns the early signs.
devilish innocent Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 The girl you like could have said something to the manager, or somebody else might have. I also agree with Mr. Lonely One that the manager could have picked up on something subtle. It could just be a certain twinkle in your eyes when you're together, a slight change in your voice when you're talking to them or about them, your eyes lingering on the other person a little too long, mimicking the other person's movements or sitting closer to them than is normal. Any of these could be without noticing what you're doing. I don't even think you need experience to pick up on those types of signs. Some people just have a natural instinct for that type of a thing. When I was 13, I got really interested in people's relationships and made a whole bunch of correct guesses about future couples (both adults and other kids) with very little to go on.
StanMusial Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Your flirtation with this girl is probably much more obvious than you think. Also, I have heard women in the workplace with the filthiest mouths you could imagine. This little ho that used to sit opposite me would go on for an hour on the phone with HER MOTHER talking about details of her sex life. I remember another lady in another company who was just as bad, I'm not even going to mention the mess that she would talk about.
HokeyReligions Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I'll let you in on something. And this was true in retail and the corporate office. Managers know what's going on with the 20-somethings. In management meetings we discuss potential problems and productivity. We keep an eye on the staff. A good manager knows when and how to separate, discourage, or schedule couples and/or packs to get the work done and still allow the "kids" time to play. And we often let them think they have pulled the wool over our eyes. Lol. 1
bubbaganoosh Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 The manager might know that you two "get along" if you will, and puts you and her different areas because she's the manager and she also has to answer to her boss and if things aren't getting done, it her ass on the chopping block. My advice is it's not a good idea to have a relationship with a co worker. Sooner or later it goes sour and you still have to work with her then you really find out how small that store your working in really is because no matter how hard you try, you won't be able to avoid her.
crederer Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Holy smokes man. You're wayyyyy over thinking it. For starters, yes women talk all the time about everything. Secondly, you may or may not be the topic of conversation. If you wanna make it legit, than ask her. Boom, simple as that.
Recommended Posts