kps32 Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Stupidly the other night, I was drunk and told my friend that I liked this girl. He told her that I liked her and she told my friend that she finds me 'too flirty' or some vague response like that. I'm not that flirty at all, just being nice. I felt too drunk to say anything to her that night after being rejected so I left it there as I didn't want to mess up any further. I have never been in a relationship so I'm really sorry for sounding a bit clueless but I could really do with some advice. I still think she likes me (I won't go into details but basically all the signs are there and no I'm not in denial I genuinely think that). I just can't help but think that her saying 'I'm too flirty' isn't proper rejection? My friend told me a few days before that 'I should make a move' and she talks about me an awful lot saying I'm generous, funny etc. I really want to see her in person, tell her how I feel (sober) and not through somebody else (big mistake) and see what she says. If she says no, fair enough. I'll just accept it and explain to her I still want to be friends. (We're like best friends at Uni). Is it possible that she was just embarrassed to admit she liked me to my friend? I don't really know what to do or say next. Should I text her and ask to meet up to explain? I just feel that if I don't act or talk to her soon about it, it could become awkward and that's the last thing I want. I did text her the morning after saying 'Sorry about drinking a bit too much last night' and she said 'haha! It's fine ' but that's the only communication we have had since. (3 days). Thanks.
PegNosePete Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Yes go for it. Be a man. Don't text, call her up and ask to meet for a drink. 1
Author kps32 Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 Okay. We're both at Uni, I just asked her out for a drink to talk about the other night but she said she has gone home for a couple of days. I don't know what to do next. I feel that if I ask her again I'll come across as clingy and annoying. Should I wait until she comes back to Uni and try again? Or should I leave it now and just wait until I happen to randomly bump into her? The last thing I want is for her to think I'm stalking her by constantly asking. (We live in the same student village so it's quite possible I could bump into her). It's strange though as since that night (this is probably nothing and probably very silly) but she has not been on Facebook or on Twitter, when usually she is usually very active on there. Also, randomly going home out of the blue (her home is 5 hours away from Uni). Is it possible that she's letting it sink in that I like her and just needs time to think about it all? Again, I know it's probably nothing, I'd just like you guys' opinions on it all. Thanks alot!
d0nnivain Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Don't ask again. The next time you are all together in a social setting pay attention to her & don't flirt with other girls. Her comment was a way of saying she doesn't fully trust you. If you want to date her you are going to have to earn her trust but you won't be able to do that with words.
PegNosePete Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 No, don't ask her again. If she was interested she would have said she was away for the weekend but would love to go for a drink when she is back. But she didn't say that, so.....
Author kps32 Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 Okay! Thanks. So should I just give up on it all and move on? If she's not interested, fine, but I still want to talk to her about staying friends and so it's difficult if she is making excuses!
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