soulz Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Broke up with my ex of 2.5 years in august end coz she cheated. I have Been fully NC.. Week 1 of NC: Blames me for making her cheat coz I didn’t show her enough love. Sends me 5 emails ranting. Week 2: tells me she wants me back. And threatens with suicide coz of no response. Goes absolutely nuts. I live in another city. And had gone to visit her during the crisis to see where shes at. But I couldn’t handle her lies, so I just chilled in her city with some of my friends. I just stayed NC. This drove her crazy. I left without saying anything on week 2. Week 3: Due to no other option she continued being with the guy she cheated on me with. Sends me emails first about how sorry she is and will never forgive herself, then within 12 hours blames me and is pissed off about this. Month 2: Asks that other guy out, he says no couple of times. Eventually he says yes. They become official. All this while she keeps asking me to talk to her. But tells me she never wants to get back. I havnt responded at all. Keeps gchatting me. keeps trying to get my attention somehow to no avail. Month 3: I delete her off all social media and block her on Gchat, Facebook and other forms of direct contact coz I was sick of her slavish attempts at contacting me. Month 4: Emails me telling me she will always love me. (as a friend probably). Asks me to be best friends with her again soon. Adds me on instagram and starts liking my pictures. Sends me random messages like “merry Christmas” and stupid nonsense, but doesn’t wish me on my birthday? Lol.. Month 5: She hasn’t spoken to her “best friend” in 5 months, since this event of cheating took place, Coz she feels shame. This “best friend” of hers is fully on my side in this situation. But yet, the ex randomly texts her after 5 months asking if she has spoken to me recently and complains that I have blocked her. The conversation escalates and the best friend bluntly tells her she is fully to blame for being horrible and cheating. This ticks my Ex off and she deletes me off Instagram.. lol.. wtf is going on in her head? Shouldn’t she be soaring and be fully happy about leaving the relationship she wanted to leave and since she is with this new boy? What is going on in her head? I know its stupid to think about her etc etc.. but I am curious..as to why she is like this.. Is the guilt creeping up on her ? Quick Background: Ex comes from a weird family: father is a cheater, brother was physically abused, She has never had any long term friends. Never mends broken relationships. Runs from her problems. The closest person she had in her life was me. and her best friend, who both dont talk to her any more.
PegNosePete Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Week 1 of NC: Blames me for making her cheat coz I didn’t show her enough love. Blame-shifting, yes totally normal. Like you held a gun to her head and made her cheat. LOL. Week 2: tells me she wants me back. And threatens with suicide coz of no response. Goes absolutely nuts. No, I wouldn't say that is normal. Week 3 Month 2 Month 3 Month 4 Month 5 I thought you're NC with her? I think you're doing it wrong. You seem to be thinking an awful lot about her actions and motivations.
todreaminblue Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Does it sound or seem right to you..doesnt sound right to me and i am schizo affective with a bf who is a level 4 schizophrenic........I have a problem with the word normal however....maybe her def of normal and your def and my def of "normal" are different...i do know manipulation when i read it though...you should stay no contact and not worry what is in her head as it is has no importance to you moving on..which would be the right thing for you to do..deb
bubblesbursted Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 She is anything but normal. She is doing anything to get your attention and to get you back. You need to keep ignoring her or just tell her to stop bothering you since it was she who cheated on you not the other way round.
Author soulz Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 She is anything but normal. She is doing anything to get your attention and to get you back. You need to keep ignoring her or just tell her to stop bothering you since it was she who cheated on you not the other way round. i couldnt bother contacting her and tell her to stop coz i havnt contacted her in 5 months now. I just wonder if this **** she does is the guilt catching up on her or not...
bubblesbursted Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 i couldnt bother contacting her and tell her to stop coz i havnt contacted her in 5 months now. I just wonder if this **** she does is the guilt catching up on her or not... What I feel is that she was too used to having you around since you already told she had family problems and she isnt taking your parting well. I think she is feeling guilty and still not ready to blame herself. Just ignore her then , block her if possible.
Author soulz Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 What I feel is that she was too used to having you around since you already told she had family problems and she isnt taking your parting well. I think she is feeling guilty and still not ready to blame herself. Just ignore her then , block her if possible. that sounds about right. The guilt will last with her for a while, it seems... And her best friend taking my side wouldn't make things any easier for her..
Author soulz Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 HOWEVER, there is a flip side to this. This is a perfect chance for a FWB situation or OLS (One Last Screwing). Basically, just reply to her email saying come over and we'll talk. Screw her brains out, she'll literally do anything for you (I'm not lying). Once you're done, throw that piece of garbage out and move on to the next girl. HAHA! that is amazing. Im quite disgusted by her now though. I doubt id even be able to feel anything down there if i were to see her. So that is out of the question. I do wonder if her guilt will grow with time or only lessen.
crederer Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Yah it's normal. People do and say whacked stuff. This has happened to me to a degree with every failed relationship I've had.
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