StGeorge22 Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Hi guys Long time reader first time writing a post! I broke up with my long term GF about 18 months ago and after spending the last year trying work it out, we have gone our separate ways a few months ago. Went on a date the other night which went well (from my point of view anyway) and after chatting for a few days after she went away for the weekend. I just messaged to see if she wanted to catch up this weekend to which she said she had 2 friends birthdays so didn't have much spare time, which is fine. I said no worries and I'd touch base next week if she wanted to which she said she wasn't sure. I didn't get mad or anything but basically gave her an out for if she didn't want another date but she kept saying she wasn't sure and we would just see what happens. I know the obvious advice is to just leave it and that's what I'll be doing, but was just curious if there is anything I'm missing here. I gave her the chance to say she def didn't want to catch up but instead of saying yes just kept saying we will see what happens and kept talking like normal. Any input? Thanks
PegNosePete Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 She's giving you the blow off. If she wanted a 2nd date then she would have said "I'm busy at the weekend but how about monday?". Any "busy" without an offer of rescheduling is a blow-off. Just leave it... she has basically rejected you, don't let her do it twice. Wait for her to come to YOU if she wants another date. But don't hold your breath. 1
Author StGeorge22 Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 Cheers Pete came to the same conclusion but thought I'd chuck it out there!
Iguanna Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Some people are not good at rejecting people. Either they feel sorry or they want to save themselves from a bad reaction. Thank God you saved yourself from such an indifferent person. General advise: when there is a red-ish flag there, it's better to assume it's red and leave than try to make it orange and pass, only to realize it was red all along after X time.
SYLLPalmer Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Hi guys Long time reader first time writing a post! I broke up with my long term GF about 18 months ago and after spending the last year trying work it out, we have gone our separate ways a few months ago. Went on a date the other night which went well (from my point of view anyway) and after chatting for a few days after she went away for the weekend. I just messaged to see if she wanted to catch up this weekend to which she said she had 2 friends birthdays so didn't have much spare time, which is fine. I said no worries and I'd touch base next week if she wanted to which she said she wasn't sure. I didn't get mad or anything but basically gave her an out for if she didn't want another date but she kept saying she wasn't sure and we would just see what happens. I know the obvious advice is to just leave it and that's what I'll be doing, but was just curious if there is anything I'm missing here. I gave her the chance to say she def didn't want to catch up but instead of saying yes just kept saying we will see what happens and kept talking like normal. Any input? Thanks This is my take based on a recent conversation with man who is well versed in the wishy washy women of today's dating world. The shoe fits. This girl is greedy. She has a number of pots on the stove top that she is watching. At this time she sees greater potential in another dish but she hasn't had the chance to taste it yet. You are a goodie and she doesn't want to let you go quite yet. She may be back. Don't give her that opportunity. This girl has no class.
Eau Claire Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Who knows? However, why do you start this thread by mentioning a past break up. Why? What is the relevance to this date ? Initial thought is you are carrying baggage. 'Date went well'...wow...quite the enthusiasm. I hope you came across with a smile and spring in your step. We're you upbeat or 'blah'? This woman is not into you for whatever reason. As for her being 'wishy washy'. No, we don't know that. You said you didn't get mad...why would you say that? Did you have an anger issue in the past? Perhaps she senses something and doesn't want to press the wrong button.
deathandtaxes Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 You only asked if she could catch up this weekend. She's busy this weekend. Bad question on your part. You should ask 1)if she wants to go out again and 2)when she is available.
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