Itspointless Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Because she can - she believes she is in control and can do whatever she wants now. I'm not sure exactly what your email said but it could have gave her an ego boost and/or she felt like she didn't want to respond but did for whatever reason.[/ Or she felt a lack of control and wasn't sure what to answer you. Fact is that she was decent enough to write something back and give you an answer.
Winter blue Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Just when I was just getting okay with everything again - she emails me, a reply from an email I sent last weekend. I've been maintaining NC since then - why'd she just reply to it now? And it didn't really say anything, other than she was thinking about the good things in our relationship but that didn't change anything. It's like she sensed I was getting better and wanted to wreck it for me all over again, or something. Didn't reply, though tempted to. Hoping it wasn't a guilt-freeing message before she went on a date - or worse. If you were the dumpee (I suppose you are) then, why did you even write her an email in the first place? what have you learnt at LS so far? NC means no contact, you don't initiate any contact, and you don't response to theirs. You're doing the opposite and you are asking why..
herself Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Awe forever lost, even being a female I have to tell you, when I was younger I would play ALL kind of mind games with boys. More out of self defense or hurting them back if they hurt me etc. Etc. I think this girl is a jerk. She left you hanging for 3 days knowing she hurt you and you would be wondering about a reply. Then she shows no compassion or real answers. She said EVEN though she was thinking of good times "it doesnt matter" I HOPE now you show HER by your SILENCE that SHE doesnt matter. What a rude callous reply. She doesnt deserve you and your blocking her via email, fb. And text will help you not look for her & move on for good. When another guy breaks her heart she will come crawling back but karma will make her see she lost a good one & you will be having fun, getting in shape, making new friends, you wont CARE. Chin up you gave a good effort, you tried reaching out dont be hard on yourself, this was your closure. Screw her! Your the better person. Nc for life, let her chew on THAT causr her big ego will cause her to reach out again for sure & you wont be there this time to validate her.
Chi townD Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 (edited) Dude, you sound like a guy that has way too much time on your hands. You need to be filling that time up! KEEPING BUSY IS THE KEY!!! You state that you're in a new CITY! Cities are big! Not like some folks on here that live in small towns and are limited in what they can do. There are TONS of stuff to do in a large city. Here's what you need to do. Get yourself a hobby. A NEW hobby. I guarantee you that there is a club you can join in your area with people that have the same interest. Join them! Go meet up with them! Meet new people. So, take a cooking class, or a photography course. Or take scuba diving lessons, or community theater. Or join a running club! Those folks usually go to mud runs and those are a lot of fun; like the Warrior Dash or Run for your Lives. Or join a cycling club. Those folks load up there bikes and do pretty intense mountain bike courses. Or join and adventurer's Club. These folks meet up at a pub or a bar and they make plans to do certain trips together like seeing the Great Wall of China, which is great because you're meeting the people you'd be traveling with! You stated you want to go to Alaska and I told you to go! But, plan more trips that could be fun. Like cattle driving in Montana, or Dog Sledding in Minnesota, or white water rafting in Arizona, or deep sea fishing in the Florida Keys, or surf lessons in Southern California...believe it or not, if you budget correctly and you do your homework for the best deals, you can do these things pretty cheap. Plus, these are memories you're going to have for a lifetime! It's a big world outside your door and you CAN DO all of those things I described. How do I know to write all of that stuff? It's because I've done all of those things! (except I white watered in West Virginia; not Arizona ). Do you know what would be cool? If one day, your Ex gets curious and wonders what you're up to and she sneaks a peek at your FB page and your profile pic is a pic of you standing on the deck of a boat after you just scuba dived the Great Barrier reef and you have your arm around your dive partner that just happens to be a blonde hair, blue eyed Aussie chick that looks fantastic in a wetsuit. She'll know that you aren't still in a state of a big pile of emotional goo she left you in. She'll see that you're doing amazing things! THAT'S how you get your revenge! You lead a damn good and full life! Edited January 30, 2014 by Chi townD 4
Author forever_lost Posted January 31, 2014 Author Posted January 31, 2014 Dude, you sound like a guy that has way too much time on your hands. You need to be filling that time up! KEEPING BUSY IS THE KEY!!! You state that you're in a new CITY! Cities are big! Not like some folks on here that live in small towns and are limited in what they can do. There are TONS of stuff to do in a large city. Here's what you need to do. Get yourself a hobby. A NEW hobby. I guarantee you that there is a club you can join in your area with people that have the same interest. Join them! Go meet up with them! Meet new people. So, take a cooking class, or a photography course. Or take scuba diving lessons, or community theater. Or join a running club! Those folks usually go to mud runs and those are a lot of fun; like the Warrior Dash or Run for your Lives. Or join a cycling club. Those folks load up there bikes and do pretty intense mountain bike courses. Or join and adventurer's Club. These folks meet up at a pub or a bar and they make plans to do certain trips together like seeing the Great Wall of China, which is great because you're meeting the people you'd be traveling with! You stated you want to go to Alaska and I told you to go! But, plan more trips that could be fun. Like cattle driving in Montana, or Dog Sledding in Minnesota, or white water rafting in Arizona, or deep sea fishing in the Florida Keys, or surf lessons in Southern California...believe it or not, if you budget correctly and you do your homework for the best deals, you can do these things pretty cheap. Plus, these are memories you're going to have for a lifetime! It's a big world outside your door and you CAN DO all of those things I described. How do I know to write all of that stuff? It's because I've done all of those things! (except I white watered in West Virginia; not Arizona ). Do you know what would be cool? If one day, your Ex gets curious and wonders what you're up to and she sneaks a peek at your FB page and your profile pic is a pic of you standing on the deck of a boat after you just scuba dived the Great Barrier reef and you have your arm around your dive partner that just happens to be a blonde hair, blue eyed Aussie chick that looks fantastic in a wetsuit. She'll know that you aren't still in a state of a big pile of emotional goo she left you in. She'll see that you're doing amazing things! THAT'S how you get your revenge! You lead a damn good and full life! Cheers, mate, to you and everyone else here. Y'all are right, of course - and while I'm trying to stay active, the sadness does seem to seep through when I'm at work and I can't really get away. But regardless, yeah - I need to stay away from anything involving her and move into the next stage of life. I will be going on work/vacation tomorrow, and am looking forward to hopefully enjoying it without thinking about what she's doing. It's just really, really hard to stay disciplined all the time.
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