dontgiveuponme Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Me and my fiancee for break up today and were together for 3 years..its a long distance relationship aswell and he comes here every 6 months and stayed for 2 months during his visit..this is the 5th time he visits and its not good we have little fights and i feel he change and cold to me..then we fight again so i said i better move out for a few days and give him some space..the next day i tried texting him and he said i better leave him alone and let him be happy i was hurt but never texted him again and after 5 days i text again said i need to talk to him to clarify things he agreed and he told me he dont want me back anymore he said its my attitude that i got moody easy and jealous but i overcome jelaousy anymore but he didnt appreciate it...he said i got a short temper and i said i never realize im being immature and admit lots of fights is my fault but its not really big fights but little one that lasted for only an hour or so.. I told him if he give me a second chance i proved to him i can change and wont be an immature again he said he dont want me anymore and he said in that 5 days without me he is very happy..i ask him if he still loves me and he said he dont know really.. He said for all the times hes coming back to visit me in my country and sacrifices he do for me im ungrateful..we are both 25 and i cant believe he wont give me a second chance for the sake of our 3 years relationship..Can someone be that mean to do it?is that how big my mistakes he cant forgive me anymore?is he being immature too or there is more reason to it aside from my attitude? he said im the sweetest girl he ever meet..i do lots of things to make him happy..serve him all the time and show him how much i love him but we ned to admit that sometimes girls aremoody and jealous but like i said i overcome my jealousy and realized and admit im being immature but he dont want me anymore.. I dont know what i really feel right now...my heart is aching but i cant cry maybe im still shocked im blaming myself for this..i need ur advice ((
ithappenedagain Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I am so sorry that you are going through this dark time right now It really sucks, doesn't it? One day they are here, and then the next day POOF. I was reading some of your other posts and it sounds like he liked to go out partying all of the time. Was alcohol a factor in your fights? Just curious, because I have been in relationships where it was almost like a bi-polar relationship. When we were not drinking things were AMAZING but once she had alcohol in her system her claws came out. Anyways, it sounds like he is not stable. Sounds like he just wants to go out boozing every night and put you on the back burner. That isnt cool. I think you should engage in No Contact as soon as possible. It seems like he is unstable. He might even try coming back to you, but don't be his doormat. I will be praying for you. 1
Author dontgiveuponme Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 ithappenedagain, Thank you so much for your reply.He never like his before he dont go out much last 4 times he visit and if he go out its with me and most of the times he spend his time with me.But now its always his friend and he always ask me for some space so he go out from 4pm till 4 am everynight and he is expecting i would be fine with that.he dont like it when i get moody when comes back to the apartment but anyone wont be ok with that. He said at first he is just stressed bout our visa coz its on hold at the moment and the problem is he didnt meet the financial requirement.i ask him if he is not ready yet coz he told me he dont want to get married yet he denied it and said its my attitude that stinks.im just moody and like the normal girls are but its nothing drastic and i overcome my jealousy he said he doesnt care anymore and wont give me 2nd chance for that. I am so confused and hurt
Author dontgiveuponme Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 Is that how big my mistakes are tht he cant forgive me anymore even though i ask for a second chance and promise i will change and told him if we fight coz of my fault he can break up on me and ill accept that but he said he had enough.. Its so painful how he can easily exchange me over friends and party after all the things i do for him he didnt see it all what he saw is my my little mistakes which i promise ill do right and telling me i didnt appreciate all his sacrifices and things he did for me but i did.. Does he just making excuses coz he wants to do more things and not ready yet for commitment because he is only 25 years old. I hate him right now but i hate myself more coz of me being moody sometimes
Arieswoman Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I think this guy has just done you a big favour breaking up with you. This relationship is going nowhere, I'm afraid. You have known each other 3 years and it's still LDR? Don't waste any more time with this guy and move on. And stop blaming yourself for this, it takes two people to make a relationship work
Author dontgiveuponme Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 Arieswoman, Thanks for the advice..i think i can move on fast if ill turn my pain to anger and hate him for promising me all the time when he said he wont give up and yet so easy for him to leave me like that.One problem that makes it worse is that i always quit my job everytime he comes here and now i dont have any job and i dont know where to start if only i got a job then maybe i can divert my attention to something. Sorry bout my bad english its not my language.Im thinking of looking for a job immediately but seems like i got no energy to do that.i cant even cry until now.
Arieswoman Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I am pleased that you have it in your mind to look for a job. You must make every effort to do this, even if you don't feel like doing anything. Good Luck. 1
Author dontgiveuponme Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 I found out today 6 hours after he broke up with me that he have a girl.A friend of mine told me because him and the rest of our friends go for 2 nights in a beach and he brings a girl with him. I feel disrespected because he never have the guts to tell me himself when he break up on me and he just put all the blame on me. Im not crying right now and i dont even know why it hurts but i cant cry..After 3 years of promises and waiting its gone.
MoooOinkBaaa Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I thought it might be another girl, I'm really sorry to hear that It happened to me too with my own long distance relationship. You will find the right person for you but try to be with someone closer who you can visit more often. I know it hurts to to think three years have gone but the problem with long distance is you end up lasting a lot longer than you would have if you were together. So essentially you spread a ~six month relationship into three years.
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