Roses777 Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Hey everyone, How do you survive feeling sort of "numb" and then by the time it is late evening, you feel sad about a recent break-up? I haven't even played any video games or anything because I seem to be in a funk. The split with my Bipolar ex even made me consider suicide. I have had no luck in finding anyone new. Fortunately, I am able to make the occasional joke but I sometimes feel like I'm at my wits' end. Can anyone help?
btfly803 Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I still have "waves" of sadness as well. At first it wasn't a wave, it was more of the entire Atlantic Ocean rushing at me. Time makes it better. If you considered and especially if you're still considering suicide, please get help. I never got to that point. What helped me was keeping busy and focusing on something else. I took up jogging/running. Hard to think about him or think about calling him while trying to catch my breath while running! I figured I would get over him or get skinny trying to. I got healthier, lost weight and that time helped to make no contact go easier. Now I still enjoy jogging and can't wait for the weather to warm up so I can go out more.
ithappenedagain Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Keep your head up, write down your thoughts, stay active, and if you need to talk to someone.. DO IT! Whether it is family, friends, or US. Just reach out to someone. Try not to bottle all of your feelings inside of you. Talking to others is a great release. You are not alone in this dark, mysterious journey. As you can probably tell, many of us are going through he same exact thing that you are. Keep your head up.
rosedl Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I find mornings the hardest. I was REALLY depressed over my break up and had some thoughts of suicide as well. It will pass. I promise. I have been through a couple heart breaks and it may feel as if the world has ended, but it hasn't I am starting to feel better. I actually laughed really hard last night for the first time I think in three months. It is a real physiological experience; the pain and grieving of heart break. No contact helps a LOT. 2
magnum1 Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Last thing at night, and first thing in the mornings are worst for me - is easier to keep yourself occupied with things during the day - but when I go to bed alone with just my own thoughts for company is when I find things toughest. Is kinda pathetic I suppose, but atm I have put a short list of notes on my wall (words of advice others have given me, reasons why I am better off remaining NC) - first thing I see/read when I get up in the mornings, so I at least start the day in the right mind set… Helps me anyway I read somewhere recently "it's funny how someone who was just a stranger last year, can mean so much to you now. And yet someone who meant so much to you last year, can be just a stranger now". Don't know about your circumstances, me and my ex have just split after 6 months together, so this might not really apply as much to you - but I guess the point is you never know what the future has in store for you, the right person might be just round the corner… Stick with it, keep telling yourself things will improve, keep the faith - this is what I'm telling myself, and hope it might help you too
WYSWYG Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I know how that feels. Everything seems meaningless. My heart raced constantly on the first month after the the BU. I was barely getting any sleep and when I did, I dream of her and wake up numb. I never held back - cried when it hits me hard but always felt better after. How did I deal w/ it? This forum was a great help. There's a lot of topics here that gave me fortitude. Like you, I also posted notes - made a list of the bad things she did/said to me and would look at it when I miss her. I wrote letters that I never sent. Also hit the gym really hard, enrolled in a dance class and got a new guitar. The key is to get distracted and be proactive in countering the misery. Be aware that somehow, you still have some control. It was not easy but will get easier in time. Hang in there. There was a beginning and there will be an end. A year or so from now we can look back at this struggle and just shrug it off....
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