john1682 Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Hey guys, I need all the advice I can get in order to understand this situation that I'm currently in! So if you could, please voice your opinion. Thanks! Alright, so I started dating my ex... About 4 months into dating her, I made it official. The reason why I made it official was because I felt pressured by her as well as her mom. Her mom from the beginning hated me, it was so apparent. Maybe within 2 months of dating her, her mom would literally be drilling things into her head like, "He's cheating on you", or "There's a reason he's not making it official", or "He's a player, he has a side chick". Things of that nature. Then when I made it official, she started saying things like, "He's going to break up with you". So if you could imagine it put stress on our relationship, just because my ex was so insecure. See, she got cheated on by her boyfriend of like 3 years, she actually caught him in the act. I actually was thinking if she actually did heal from that or she carried all of that baggage into our relationship. So we kept on with the relationship, it never felt forced, we were attracted to each other as well as had a emotional connection (so I thought). Thanksgiving was coming up, and I went over her house the night of to just hang out while they were cooking it up in the kitchen. As soon as I came, I walked into the kitchen and the whole vibe just changed. It sounded like they were having such a blast in there, it was my ex, her mom, and her sister. I gave her mom a hug and she literally brushed me off, I never felt so uncomfortable and unwanted in my life! So I took her to the other room and we hung out for awhile. We laughed, flirted, had serious talk, and it was time for me to leave it was getting really late. So as we approached the front porch, I turned we kissed and I took off. Later that night, she texted me saying how happy she was that I came by and all that. The next morning, we were talking and I asked her how she would feel if I didn't come to their Thanksgiving party. She asked me why and I flat out told her that I feel uncomfortable around her mom. So she got a little upset and tried to beat around the bush telling me that her mom "likes" me but I wasn't going to take that **** and let her know how I've been feeling regarding her mom because I had enough. So we decided to just go to our own families parties. Later on that night, she started being SUPER distant. I didn't think to much of it and actually just went home and went to bed because I had work the next day. The next day I get no "Good morning" message or anything. She would always text me in the morning, regardless if we would get in a fight or argument. So I thought that was a little weird, but I let it drag out for a bit and then I messaged her myself. She was being super distant, giving me stupid 2-3 word answers, stopped calling me babe, the whole nine yards. So I got sick of that and called her to see what's wrong. She gave me some bull**** excuses about me asking stupid questions. That night we were suppose to hang out but she cancelled on me. The next morning I tried to see if we could get coffee and she blew me off... So I got irritated and just stopped messaging her and kept my distance. That night, I get the most dumbest break up message. She said things like, "I can't do this face to face I need to do this through text", to "I feel like we've been growing distant", to "we're two different people", to "I just need to focus on myself while I get everything together". **** like that, typical breakup excuses covering up the real reason. I was shocked and just told her "If that's how you feel then good luck". Now, 2 months down the line I texted her (I know big mistake). I just wanted to see how she was doing, she replied within seconds, we talked for a little but nothing came out of it. About a week later, I get a text from her saying "Hey good morning I hope you have a great day" She also had that blushing emoji face at the end. I texted her back like 2 hours later really dry and dull, had another pointless conversation, even though she kept trying to prolong it but I ended up just saying "I hope you have a good day to". Now, she actually un-followed me on Instagram so I did the same thing. Now check this out, I posted this quote saying "When it's all said and done, you'll see what's real and you'll see who's true, just give it a little time". She goes on my page and likes the post. Then later on, I posted a quote talking about "Not satisfying other people and to just live your life yourself without focusing on the satisfaction of others", she goes on my page and likes that. So I'm just trying to figure out what the possible reason was for the breakup as well as what's her motive now... Like why are you liking my posts without following me? Like she's trying to make it known! Just help me out you guys lol I know its a lot to read but I want to just be pin point. Thanks guys
Philosoraptor Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 You're both stupid and playing games. Stop worrying about her and start worrying about yourself and where you want to go from here. Nothing but wasted time and emotions focusing on something that was clearly not going to work. She valued the opinions of others over her own opinion and would not defend you to her mother. Just block her on your social networks and go about your day. Man, stop playing games and allowing her to play games with you. Block, ignore, and go about your day.
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