thummper Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Thank you all for your very honest advice. I have been praying about my sins and have realized you are all right! I will do what I vowed to do 21 years ago. I will hope God and my wife will forgive me for straying. even if it was just emotional. Atta boy, Ditto! Remember those vows, and remember your wifey has been keeping them along with her love for you. Glad you didn't throw 20 years away in the heat of......well, whatever heat you were in. Infatuations come and go, but a good marriage can last a lifetime. Good luck to you and your sweetie. 1
Kalee35 Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 My advice is don't do it! This is how it all starts but in truth it's all an illusion. This is the same thing that my affair partner and I said to each other. Fast forward 5 months and now a marriage has been shattered and a wife left hurting and angry. You won't leave your wife in the end no matter what you think right now. Even if you do, you will return to her and have to face the devastation you will have created. You will look back and wonder what on earth were you thinking once you are in your right mind again. I'm telling you now don't do it. I've seen first hand a wife in severe pain because of mine and her husbands selfishness and deceit. It's a horrible thing we both have to live with and all I want to do is erase her pain and hurt and I can't and it sucks. 1
JamesM Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Thank you all for your very honest advice. I have been praying about my sins and have realized you are all right! I will do what I vowed to do 21 years ago. I will hope God and my wife will forgive me for straying. even if it was just emotional. I do hope that you follow through with this. It is incredibly difficult to step back from a line you were ready to cross. It is not just you that has to make that commitment...it is also her. And if she decides that she wants you and breaks off her engagement, then you, my friend, will be in a really difficult place. Stopping an affair at that point will take some superhuman strength and much help from God (not flippantly said). While I am one who will say that it WAS just emotional, I will also say that there is only one step between you and the start of a full blown affair. And taking that next step is as easy or easier than taking a step back. Problem is you really want to go forward although you know that you should go back. Please stop by and update us. Your experiences can be of help to others who read your thread. Many of us have wandered in here because of google and someone else's thread. Many of us have never left. (Why is this not called Hotel California? ) Good luck. 3
Snowflower Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Thank you all for your very honest advice. I have been praying about my sins and have realized you are all right! I will do what I vowed to do 21 years ago. I will hope God and my wife will forgive me for straying. even if it was just emotional. Thanks for coming back and updating us. From your post here, you sound like a man of faith. If you were to pursue this attraction for this other woman, I think you would do irreparable harm to yourself in the process. Please talk to a religious leader about your situation and get their advice in how to tell your wife.
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