slightly_unusual Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 before you say " I love you " would one month after becoming a couple ( officially ) be way too soon ?
d0nnivain Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 It all depends. One month seems a bit fast but you qualified it by saying it's been one month since you have been "official" so it may depend on what you were doing before & for how long.
Aquanut Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I told my fiancee after one month of (frequent- almost daily) dating. I knew it was very soon and I tried not to say it but I just could not leave it unsaid one night when we were talking. I knew her for 3 months before we began dating and we felt like a couple from the first weekend we started dating. It was very unusual for me to feel that way. I was so comfortable in her presence it was remarkable- as if I had known her for ages.
Author slightly_unusual Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 It all depends. One month seems a bit fast but you qualified it by saying it's been one month since you have been "official" so it may depend on what you were doing before & for how long. I met this girl online at the end of October last year but we didn't meet up for another month , we,ve slept together seven or eight times and have done everything together from going to gigs , dinner in fancy restaraunts , cinema , bowling , to mundane things like shopping it hit me yesterday while we were in bed and I just said " ive got something to tell you ****** " , she looked at me , said " just give me a minute " , hugged me , then replied " I love you too " I don't regret saying it but I hope it doesn't scare her and make things awkward between us , she sent me a text last night when she had left my house saying " I love you to bits " , I know its soon but I absolutely love this woman , I am the type to make things happen fast in every aspect of my life descisiveness is my greatest strength and occasional weakness
Allumere Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Too soon. Those words get thrown around to easily and people don't understand what it really means to love another.
Author slightly_unusual Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 Too soon. Those words get thrown around to easily and people don't understand what it really means to love another. that's your opinion
MidwestUSA Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 My BF blurted it out at the 26 day mark. He'd apparently been trying to hold it in for days and was a nervous wreck about it. It was pretty endearing.
soccerrprp Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I said it to my late-wife after 2-weeks of dating! Saw her almost daily up to that point. But that was 15-years ago, so different times. I suspect that the vast majority of people would not be too comfortable with being told that he/she is loved just after 1-month. In the end, it all depends on the individuals involved.
Author slightly_unusual Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 seems odd that my girlfriend replied in kind then ?
MidwestUSA Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 seems odd that my girlfriend replied in kind then ? I replied in kind when he took me by surprise. He asked me if I really meant it or if that was sort of a reflex. I said I 'think' I meant it, LOL! And I did. Who knows? We were married less than a year later. Best of luck and love to you!
mammasita Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I've been going back and forth with this for a couple months. I met my BF back in September. The first couple months I could have blurted out I LOVE YOU at any moment. I mean I was bursting at the seams wanting to say I LOVE YOU to him. I didn't say it though because I want to be sure. I still haven't said it. I'm not saying that I don't love him and that I'm not falling in love with him - because I am and I do love him - no doubt......but I'm pretty sure that those initial new feelings are what we all feel in a new relationship, and what most of us confuse (self included, many times over) for being in love. Cliff notes: I still haven't said I love you
Disco Lemonade Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Do you have a good idea about how she feels for you? A lot of times, people throw around words which are basically code for "I love you." It is a way to dance around the feeling while trying to get a read on how the other person feels. Do you think she has told you things that may be "encoded"? If she has and you KNOW that you feel that way too, go for it.
Author slightly_unusual Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 I've been going back and forth with this for a couple months. I met my BF back in September. The first couple months I could have blurted out I LOVE YOU at any moment. I mean I was bursting at the seams wanting to say I LOVE YOU to him. I didn't say it though because I want to be sure. I still haven't said it. I'm not saying that I don't love him and that I'm not falling in love with him - because I am and I do love him - no doubt......but I'm pretty sure that those initial new feelings are what we all feel in a new relationship, and what most of us confuse (self included, many times over) for being in love. Cliff notes: I still haven't said I love you I told my girlfriend a few weeks ago that I " take nothing for granted " , this was after she told me she sees a future for us and that im very special to her , it was her who was uttering all these lines up until now , a few things happened this weekend ( we spent two full days together ) which made me realise that I love her , im comfortable doing everything from the very mundane to the exciting with her , she did not have to reply that she loved me and I would not have been offended if she had not because two people cannot be identical in how they feel and view things if she ends up regretting having said she loves me , that's her issue , I did not tell her I loved her just so she would reply in kind , I fully realise that people can change their mind about these things , I still take nothing for granted but feel that if my having said " I love you " is enough to torpedo our relationship , she was never really up to it anyway so I don't regret having uttered those three words I LOVE YOU 1
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