Beachlife88 Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Been dating a guy 6 weeks. Recently exclusive. Things have been great. He told me a couple weeks ago he's overall a depressive person but he's been good lately in his words. This last week he sleeps excessively and just seems down. He tells me he hates his job. I texted him today how he was he said he could be better. I asked if I could do anything no answer so I left it. I know when I'm down I like to be left alone but I'm Still getting to know him. I guess I just assume it's me. Although Friday when I saw him things were great. What should I do? Continue to leave him alone? I guess I worry that maybe he's lost interest but my friends say bc he's never done this before not to worry
Wisecrack Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Don't worry. Thats just part of life. Relationships aren't all happily ever after 24/7. People are allowed to have their off days just like they are allowed to poop. Give him a few days space and let him know to reach out back to you when feeling better.
Emilia Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I think you should worry OP. Is he doing anything to deal with it? Has he seeked professional help? Or does he just sit at home moping? If it's the latter, you need to decide whether that's what you want to deal with long term.
pickflicker Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I agree, depression is fine, so long as something is being done about it (no matter how small).
skydiveaddict Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 (edited) I texted him today how he was he said he could be better. I asked if I could do anything no answer so I left it. I know when I'm down I like to be left alone but I'm Still getting to know him. I guess I just assume it's me. Although Friday when I saw him things were great. What should I do? Continue to leave him alone? Both of you start jumping out of airplanes. His depression will leave him[/url]. Edited January 27, 2014 by skydiveaddict
todreaminblue Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 depression kills motivation.....for many things....communication is one.......what my family and friends do for me is let me know that they are there if i need them when i am depressed.....the rest really is up to me........the same with your bf....if he doesnt want to talk, he wont....but when he is ready......just let him know you are there and he will come to you.......being with a depressive person isnt easy ...but then most relationships arent easy, takes a bit of compromise.......on both parts.....if the relationship is making you feel sad more than glad on a regular basis.........then you need to tell him that...... that is the place when it becomes unfair on you.......you deserve to be happy too...its not all about him......dont let someone elses depression make you sad....step back and be and do what makes you happy...doubles the problem if he drags you down with him..never rely on a depressed person to stop you from feeling bad or insecure.....it wont happen.....they are struggling to breathe themselves..... ........step back for you and for him try to find things that make you happy and maybe things that you can do that make both of you happy together......if and when he is up to it that is...best wishes...hugs to ya.deb
almond Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I wouldn't be entering into a relationship with anyone that has depression that is not being treated. He needs to be happy with himself and his own life before anything else. His unhappiness will be taxing on you. I would strongly suggest that you have a long chat with him about it all (how long he has been feeling this way, how severe it is etc.) without delay. If he is unwilling to see a doctor and look after himself, then I would be out of there quick smart. If he chooses treatment, then I would remain friends with him but put any romantic relationship on hold until he is happy and well. 2
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