Onethirtyeight Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 (edited) The back story to this is why I'm curious, normally I'd say it is. I was in a club with this girl last year and she quit after a month. I thought she was cool person and said hi to her every time I saw her on campus even though I didn't know her that well. We were at the same post Halloween party this last November. She told me about this cool restaurant/bar she found near by. I told her that sounded like fun but I was really drunk by this point in the evening and I don't remember most that conversation. About a week later I texted her saying she should show me this place. She never responded to this. She rejoined the club and we've been chatting some and being friendly and she's always kind of in my space. She's Hispanic though so I've just been writing that off as cultural and she kind of does that to a lot of guys. Not saying she's being flirty really but just stands really close and we're always bumping into each other. We were talking over Facebook today and she asked me to go to that same place and said that she didn't know that I had asked her before. We agreed to go on Wednesday and a time has not been set. I'm thinking I'll call her on Tuesday to work out a time because I was thinking of this as being informal friends kind of thing. What do you think? Wondering if I should treat it like a date or not. If it is I'll pick her up, dress nicely, and pay for the food. Otherwise I might just wear a pollo, offer to meet her there, and split the bill. Edited January 26, 2014 by Onethirtyeight
Aquanut Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Why such formalism? Anytime you spend one on one time with a potential romantic partner it's a date (of sorts), no matter what label you give it- hanging out, getting together, going out. I think what you really want to know is whether she views you as a potential romantic partner. You and she are the only ones in a position to judge that :-)
ja123 Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 If you want this to be a date, then treat it like a date. She'll either want to date you or she won't. If you don't treat it like a date, then she's not going to want to date you at all. So why not give it a chance, if you like her?
Author Onethirtyeight Posted January 26, 2014 Author Posted January 26, 2014 Why such formalism? Anytime you spend one on one time with a potential romantic partner it's a date (of sorts), no matter what label you give it- hanging out, getting together, going out. I think what you really want to know is whether she views you as a potential romantic partner. You and she are the only ones in a position to judge that :-) I just don't want it to be awkward. If I offer to pick her up, dress up, and pay for the food and she doesn't think its a date it will be kind of weird. If I don't do those things and she thinks it is a date and she is dressed up its going to be very weird. I'd like to get it right.
StanMusial Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Dress according to the place you're going. If it's not inconvenient, offer to pick her up. If you can afford it, offer to pay. If she wants to split the bill, then accept the offer. I only say this because technically she was the one who extended the invitation. Other than that, if you like her then flirt with her. Leave no doubt you want to pursue a romantic relationship with her.
Author Onethirtyeight Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 Dress according to the place you're going. If it's not inconvenient, offer to pick her up. If you can afford it, offer to pay. If she wants to split the bill, then accept the offer. I only say this because technically she was the one who extended the invitation. Other than that, if you like her then flirt with her. Leave no doubt you want to pursue a romantic relationship with her. I mean I know how to act on a date... I guess it can't do any harm to pick her up and dress nicely even if its not a date. By the time the bill comes I should have a feel for what's going on.
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