LuxAri6 Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 So I've started talking to this new guy. Our first date went great. There was great conversation and we had a lot in common. He invited me over his house the next day to watch a TV show that we both like. I said yes and after the show was over we made out a little and did some touching, but I did not have sex with him. I met him online and before we met we were texting. He had asked me if I was talking to anyone else because he didn't want any games, he's been hurt before. I told him no. Then I asked him if he was just looking for a hook up because I've been hurt too. He said no and that he was looking for someone to share his life with Someone to go out with but also sit home and relax. I was like okay glad we are on the same page. Starting to think that was a lie. It's been a week since I have seen him. He text's me but it's always "What's up" or something along those lines. I tell him what I'm doing and I ask what he's doing. His answers are usually short and non-detailed. I try to start a conversation but he either doesn't respond to my question or only gives me one word answers and he never asks me anything back. It's not like a what's up wanna come over kinda text though because he texts me at random times during the day. And most of the time he's either at work, running errands, or out with friends. So it seems like he's just interesting in what I'm doing, but the conversation never goes anywhere from there. He said he wanted to see me again, but didn't know when he would be able to because he was really busy with work. That was a week ago almost and he still has not set up a date. I stopped asking about it because I didn't want to be too pushy about it. It just doesn't seem like he really want's to. I've been trying to be positive about everything and give him the benefit of the doubt, but how long can I keep doing that. I keep telling myself just give it time it's only been a week, don't worry. I really just want to talk to him so see what's going on. Because as of right now I don't think he wants me for anything other than sex, of which I'm not going to give him, until he earns it. I'm just so confused. I don't even know if it's worth trying to make it work with him after all this. He said he didn't want any games, well this feels like he's playing games with me. It's so aggravating. Not sure if what I'm feeling is just me looking for the let down because I'm so used to not getting things that I want or if it's a rational reaction.
deathandtaxes Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Sounds like he just wanted you for a hook up. He almost got the sex he wanted. I wouldn't give this guy another chance. If he was interested, he would make the time. 1
MixedUpChick Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Ditto. I don't see anything in your post that indicates that he's actually interested in dating you. Move on. 1
BC1980 Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 He's not interested. He would make the time to see you. It's happened to me before too. Just move on and don't worry about it anymore. You will find someone who wants to spend time with you. 2
newmoon Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 if there is genuine interest he would have set up the date that same night or quickly after, and would be texting you more than hi/what's up. it's only one date, right? don't get so emotionally invested in someone just because they say the right stuff. obviously his actions don't match his words, so that's a bad sign. he was probably hoping you'd put out anyway, good for you that you didn't :-) 2
winny Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Don't go over to a guy's place so soon... even if u don't sleep together... still...
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