The pain is going Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Hi We broke up a year ago, together 4 yrs ,and both 40 yrs old, I txt another woman, emotionally cheated on her, but had to live together for a further 6 mths, We still were friendly, had food together, even went out for food/shopping, to the beach together, told me she has never loved any one like me, thought we weren't going to break up, but as time got closer it became tense, but not nasty, she cried told me I had to be her friend, and she was letting me go and hoped I would find someone. I stayed in a friends house for about 10 days, when I went back to pick up clothes, she cried again told me she couldn't eat when I wasn't there, we spent time together talking cooked, drunk wine, then I left, we hugged, But she still wouldn't stay, I helped her move out, broke my heart, found out she had a rebound I then went NC for a month, there were some txts, but just about money/bills etc. after about 3 months, she came to my house stayed for a few hours, told me she missed me, never had a friend like me, said she was grieving...... but then said she's still seeing rebound , he's 10 yrs younger.....We txt for about a week, but now stopped.... now into NC again 3 weeks... Just cant understand it, think it was Grass is greener?, then throws me bread crumbs? She's really stubborn....Nobody believed she was going to leave, never a had a breakup like this....any opinions?
imfine Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Was it GIGS when you emotionally cheated on her? It's quite possible she's still hurting over it. She wants to go back to the way things were before, she can pretend, but it always comes back to haunt her. She stays with the rebound because she wants to move forward. Then she doesn't, she wants the old back. Infidelity messes with your mind. Regardless, you can make the choice to stop the back & forth.
Author The pain is going Posted January 26, 2014 Author Posted January 26, 2014 She is still hurting, she cant let it go... that's why she stopped txting a few weeks ago, said meeting me brought it all back, its just the way she still looks at me... nobody has ever looked at me the same way,I know she still loves me... we both told each other it was true love...before she left...... but I 've hurt her to much....
imfine Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Some people can get past being betrayed & some can't. Like you said, you've hurt her too much. I doubt this other guy is GIGS. He's probably just a bandaid to the wound she's tending. Not a healthy coping mechanism. It only slows the healing.
Author The pain is going Posted March 18, 2014 Author Posted March 18, 2014 She's back again...Went NC for 2months, got the occasional breadcrumb, but she invited herself to my house,,,let her call she stayed for 3/4 hrs, told me she missed me and she has finished with rebound, found out he was nearly 15 yrs younger, nothing in common, but is sad she is hurting him.. we been on two dates, taking it slow, but shes unsure, think she is still seeing him, shes caught in 2 minds, guess I got to go NC????
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