pickflicker Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 This ^^^^ My boyfriend has a short term memory problem due to a brain injury he had in the past, yet even he remembered to text me after our first date to tell me how much he liked it. My boyfriend is just one guy though. He, personally, said he would never go on a date with a women he was into and NOT text her after the date.... It is 2014, and with the various means of communication, MOST men I know DO tend to text a girl after the first date IF they really like her. You're guy COULD be an exception to the rule though! MOST guys do text a girl after a first date IF they are into the girl, however, NOT ALL men behave the same. If you really sensed things went well, text him. You have nothing to lose. There is a SLIM chance he is very interested in you and simply wanted to wait FOR YOU to text HIM. If the girl had been clear that she's had a good time, the guy needs to text. He's a guy, he knows you're there, he doesn't ever need to be reminded. Guy texts. No text, move on. Some things ARE that simple.
Disco Lemonade Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I have definitely been contacted by women by text right after a first date before, and when handled correctly, it can be very sweet. In the future, saying something like "thank you for the drinks, dinner, etc., it was fun and hope to do it again sometime" is a good way to show interest without being pushy. If he likes you, it will give him the encouragement he needs to ask you out again. Some guys need that reassurance that the person they went out on a date with actually had a good time and likes them. 1
MixedUpChick Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I have definitely been contacted by women by text right after a first date before, and when handled correctly, it can be very sweet. In the future, saying something like "thank you for the drinks, dinner, etc., it was fun and hope to do it again sometime" is a good way to show interest without being pushy. If he likes you, it will give him the encouragement he needs to ask you out again. Some guys need that reassurance that the person they went out on a date with actually had a good time and likes them. Exactly. I'm shocked to see someone in this thread saying it's "the guy's job" to text afterwards, that's so not true. If I want to be sure he knows I had a good time, I'm going to text him afterwards to make sure he knows I had a good time. I want it to be crystal clear in case he was nervous & didn't actually hear me on the date.
georgecostanza Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I went on a first date this week. For the second date we're meeting at an airport bar and seeing what flights have seats available and just go on a blind adventure somewhere. 4
MidwestUSA Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I went on a first date this week. For the second date we're meeting at an airport bar and seeing what flights have seats available and just go on a blind adventure somewhere. ^^^I like this. Crazy enough to do it, too!
hasaquestion Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 I went on a first date this week. For the second date we're meeting at an airport bar and seeing what flights have seats available and just go on a blind adventure somewhere. This is fantastic. 1
Author abby_tx Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 Some of you might have missed my follow up. The day after our date (25 hours to be exact. ha) I texted him that I had a good time, etc. and HE said we should hang out again. We live 30 minutes away from each other, so that doesn't make things as easy as just dropping by. I was thinking I'd be able to drive to HIS town Friday, but wanted to be absolutely sure before making plans. So what I said was, "I think I'll be in town this week, but I'll let you know." Well, I realize now that I can see him Friday, but if I text him a day later saying, "Okay, Friday works." Do I sound too eager? Should I wait until Wednesday or so? (Yeah, gamesgamesgames right?) One thing that's going to be difficult is this guy seemed really nervous and awkward which is how I am. So when we left after our date, we were just kind of both rambling, "I had fun" and he said, "You have my number!" On our next date, I hope we can get some drinks or loosen up a bit to see if he has any physical attraction toward me. I find him incredibly attractive, but I have no idea if I'm his type. I have been hurt twice in the past (once was completely devastating). I have had time to heal and am in a really great place now. So now just jumping in to situations where I could get hurt again really sucks.
Disco Lemonade Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Some of you might have missed my follow up. The day after our date (25 hours to be exact. ha) I texted him that I had a good time, etc. and HE said we should hang out again. We live 30 minutes away from each other, so that doesn't make things as easy as just dropping by. I was thinking I'd be able to drive to HIS town Friday, but wanted to be absolutely sure before making plans. So what I said was, "I think I'll be in town this week, but I'll let you know." Well, I realize now that I can see him Friday, but if I text him a day later saying, "Okay, Friday works." Do I sound too eager? Should I wait until Wednesday or so? (Yeah, gamesgamesgames right?) One thing that's going to be difficult is this guy seemed really nervous and awkward which is how I am. So when we left after our date, we were just kind of both rambling, "I had fun" and he said, "You have my number!" On our next date, I hope we can get some drinks or loosen up a bit to see if he has any physical attraction toward me. I find him incredibly attractive, but I have no idea if I'm his type. I have been hurt twice in the past (once was completely devastating). I have had time to heal and am in a really great place now. So now just jumping in to situations where I could get hurt again really sucks. I don't see a problem with letting him know right away. Why wait? I would want to know as soon as possible. If he likes you, he will be happy to have you make that move. I would probably just try to avoid being presumptuous. He might have plans already for friday. Maybe tell him that friday is an option for you if he is free to do something. If it is in his town, hopefully he will set the date.
crederer Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 "what do you do after a good first date?" Masturbate 1
Andy_K Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 "what do you do after a good first date?" Masturbate If it's a REALLY good first date you won't need to
Author abby_tx Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 Well, I messaged him last night with what days would work and saw he read my message, but he never replied. Before we met, he'd reply instantly. I have a feeling he's just not that into me. Why do guys get so excited in the beginning and fade out so fast?
Andy_K Posted January 28, 2014 Posted January 28, 2014 Why do guys get so excited in the beginning and fade out so fast? Because online it can be so difficult for a guy to get a date, that by the time he has one lined up he's totally psyched up about it. Only after a date or two will this excitement fade and the reality of actually getting to know you sinks in. Then he starts to wonder if you're actually what he's looking for, and whether he wants you as much as he thought he did
Author abby_tx Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 Because online it can be so difficult for a guy to get a date, that by the time he has one lined up he's totally psyched up about it. Only after a date or two will this excitement fade and the reality of actually getting to know you sinks in. Then he starts to wonder if you're actually what he's looking for, and whether he wants you as much as he thought he did It's the exact opposite for me. Only after a good date to I start caring and getting excited. Before the date I'm easily turned off by them viewing my profile too much or messaging me too quickly. Basically their eagerness is annoying until I meet and like them.
Author abby_tx Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 Okay, he told me he was busy Friday but Saturday "might" work. He'd let me know in a couple days then asked how my week was. This doesn't really seem like a good sign or am I reading into it too much?
MixedUpChick Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Okay, he told me he was busy Friday but Saturday "might" work. He'd let me know in a couple days then asked how my week was. This doesn't really seem like a good sign or am I reading into it too much? Stop worrying about it, and don't keep that day free on the possibility of a "might" work from him. Get out & do things with other people, if you happen to make plans to do something with someone else for Saturday when he's not even committing to being available, go for it!
Author abby_tx Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 Stop worrying about it, and don't keep that day free on the possibility of a "might" work from him. Get out & do things with other people, if you happen to make plans to do something with someone else for Saturday when he's not even committing to being available, go for it! Good idea. I already filled up my Friday when I found out he couldn't go out and a guy friend asked me for dinner Saturday, but I was waiting to say yes until I knew if this guy was free. Maybe I should just go to dinner with my friend.
MixedUpChick Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Good idea. I already filled up my Friday when I found out he couldn't go out and a guy friend asked me for dinner Saturday, but I was waiting to say yes until I knew if this guy was free. Maybe I should just go to dinner with my friend. Yes, you should. You don't know if this guy will come through & if he does, he needs to know you're not sitting around pining after him, that you have a life that doesn't revolve around him. And think of how you'll feel if you keep Saturday open on the chance he does want to get together, & you don't hear from him? Definitely go out with your friend 1
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