swimming2 Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 I'm a university student and I have a summer job as a supervisor meaning the job only lasts 3 months out of the year. One of my employees goes to the same university as me and we have a class together. I found her cute last summer but nothing more than that (didn't have a crush on her or anything). Since we have a class together, we've been talking a lot and I think I'm starting to like her. We always talk after class and she puts effort into talking to me but there's no way for me to read that as her being interested or just trying to set a good impression as I'm her boss during the summer. Now I know boss-employee dating is usually a big no-no but this is sorta different as the job is in no way tied to the careers that we will be doing upon graduating from college. On top of that, I will only be working there for one last summer. The other thing is that she is younger than girls that I usually date. She is 2 years younger, I'm in my 3rd year of university and she's a freshman. I know that if we did date, I'd have to be careful to not give the wrong impression as I wouldn't be in it just to hook up. I'm not sure if asking her out will put her in an uncomfortable position or not. We do not treat each other as boss-employee at university but I'm still worried that me being her boss and the 2 year age difference will make her uncomfortable.
TaraMaiden Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 The only reason there should be discomfort at the age gap is if you're 17..... 2 years is nothing - I mean, really, it honestly isn't. you sound like a mature chap. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Talk this out with her. You sound as if you can string more than 2 words together so I won't even suggest a line of discussion to follow. But keep it friendly and'non-challenging'. In other words, put it forward as an option, not an either/or choice..... 1
Author swimming2 Posted January 26, 2014 Author Posted January 26, 2014 Yeah I suppose that makes sense. The fact that the women of my past relationships were only at most a year younger than me might be causing me to over think the age difference.
deathandtaxes Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Bad idea. Wait until after the work assignment. Spend the work time getting to know her. You can't conceive of all the issues that can arise if you date someone you work with, even if it is just temporary. Too many people out there to fish in the pool.
d0nnivain Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Because the job isn't your career, go ahead & ask your classmate out.
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