Redhawkk Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 This is my second post here. I wrote my last post only yesterday morning. I've been reading so many posts and it has been helping me out with my situation. For those who haven't read my other post, it doesn't really matter. Basically, my girlfriend unofficially broke up with me with a text saying she didn't want to see or hear from me for 2 weeks but that we were still together. Odd, right? I know what it means. I cried a lot on that Tuesday and I thought I was gradually getting better until Today(Sunday). It's been 5 days since I've spoken to her and 6 since I've seen her. I broke out in tears today and I'm having a hard time coping with the realization that the girl I've loved for almost 3 years is planning on leaving me, or has already left me but chose not to tell me. To make it worse, I'm remodelling my room and I keep finding things that remind me of her or actually belong to her or were gifts to me from her. I just miss her so much...
AnyaNova Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 This is my second post here. I wrote my last post only yesterday morning. I've been reading so many posts and it has been helping me out with my situation. For those who haven't read my other post, it doesn't really matter. Basically, my girlfriend unofficially broke up with me with a text saying she didn't want to see or hear from me for 2 weeks but that we were still together. Odd, right? I know what it means. I cried a lot on that Tuesday and I thought I was gradually getting better until Today(Sunday). It's been 5 days since I've spoken to her and 6 since I've seen her. I broke out in tears today and I'm having a hard time coping with the realization that the girl I've loved for almost 3 years is planning on leaving me, or has already left me but chose not to tell me. To make it worse, I'm remodelling my room and I keep finding things that remind me of her or actually belong to her or were gifts to me from her. I just miss her so much... I know this is going to be hard to hear. But don't play into her game. If she wants you terribly after two weeks and makes contact with you, explains what and why she wanted that time, and that she made a terrible mistake and wants to truly make it right, give it a chance, I guess, although the likelihood is that you would still get hurt. Don't contact her in two weeks. You want someone who wants you enough to make the effort. If she doesn't care enough to make the effort, as badly as it hurts, keep NC. I know a lot of people would say to throw away the gifts she gave you, I say, box them up and give them to a friend to keep until you are truly ready for them (like when you are with someone else and happy down the road, not when you start feeling vaguely a little better and nostalgic and think you can handle them like I thought at one point a few weeks after mine that I could handle reading through our OkC messages). And put her belongings in a box and send them back to her. That will give her the clear message that you know what this really is and that you are not going to play her game or keep waiting on her hook. Keep NC. Grieve. You will survive this and come through it. It sucks and it seems so horrifically wrong and unfair. But there is someone better for you waiting out there. If she cannot see what she has lost in you, she doesn't deserve you. 2
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