sowhathuh Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 I wish things were different I wish you were different I couldnt let another week pass I couldnt let another day pass Do you not enjoy making plans with me? Do I not make you smile? I miss you You cant miss me if youre local...come visit me I needed a hug You sent a text message Youre so busy lately Never too busy for sex Lets do lunch, dinner, a movie, or something this weekend Sure, I'd love to see you It's Sunday 8:45 p.m. I guess you've forgotten about dinner, a movie, or something this weekend...no big deal. Youre busy You have goals I have sadness What about my feelings? Yes, I'm strong No, I'm not needy But I find myself needing you...sometimes Dont you understand? The time is now Im so sad I wanted to love you Background - I broke up with my bf of 10 months this weekend. He's been unavailable for the past month or so (Ive seen him once this month). Although I realize that he has time sensitive goals to accomplish, I couldnt understand why he couldnt work me into his plans. I told him I couldnt be in a relationship like this anymore; that it was not good that I feel neglected or that he feel "obligated'. He agreed. Here I am. NC has been hard for me in the past. I'm ok with the idea at first. After a few days, I'll start thinking of any lame reason to contact. I dont want to do that this time. Thank you for listening. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
d0nnivain Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 I'm sorry you are hurting but you are right that you are no longer a priority to him. The fact that you are writing poetry is good; it's a positive outlet for your grief. Give yourself some time to heal. 1
deathandtaxes Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 He just agreed with what you said? He didn't put up any resistance? Sounds like he wasn't busy - he had already checked out and was too wuss to end things with you!!
Heroeric Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 I'm in a very similar boat as you. My gf of a year broke up with me a few months ago, upset because I was upset about her not trying to bother keeping the relationship going and making me a priority, she would always neglect me. Finally things came to an end, and aalthough I'm still moving forward with my life I think of her all the time. But if there is any advice I could give, it's that if you have any questions related to closure on how he felt, ask them to him and delete all forms of contact. Its hard, so very hard, but right now talking to him will only lead to, at best, him feeding you bread crumbs.
Author sowhathuh Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 I'm in a very similar boat as you. My gf of a year broke up with me a few months ago, upset because I was upset about her not trying to bother keeping the relationship going and making me a priority, she would always neglect me. Finally things came to an end, and aalthough I'm still moving forward with my life I think of her all the time. But if there is any advice I could give, it's that if you have any questions related to closure on how he felt, ask them to him and delete all forms of contact. Its hard, so very hard, but right now talking to him will only lead to, at best, him feeding you bread crumbs. I understand. Once neglect is involved, you can kiss your relationship goodbye. You cannot neglect a person & love them as well. I have questions in which I do not feel entitled to the answers because I broke up w him. I reqlly was hoping he would fight to keep me. He did not :-(
Tayla Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 As I read this, you broke up with him. For whatever your reasons were, find solice in knowing you did what is right for you at this time in your life. Please though, leave him be. So many folks on here are on the other end of the spectrum of being dumped, and its sad to read how they are given false hope only to be torn up again when it doesn't work.
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