janejane120 Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 I have been seeing this guy for 6 months. We never moved things to the relationship level, but we saw each other regularly and he wasn't seeing any one else. I acted cool the whole time because his online profile said he wasn't looking for a commitment. I accepted it but thought his action said otherwise.... he was really attentive and caring. In the beginning of January, he started texting me a lot less. I became nervous and sensed something was wrong. Eventually he texted me to say he wanted to end things with me. I went to his place to talk. He told me that our relationship became stagnant. He would like to have moved things to a relationship level but he felt I was still dating around (I was not very communicative). At this point, he had began seeing other women. He declined my sexual advance and said it's best we cut contact for now. We could find a way to be friends in a few months when my feelings die down. I feel like i have ruinned it. I really like this man! I was not being communicative because I thought he didn't want any commitment. I feel that NC is necessary. It's my hope that we could take a break, and then start from scratch. My questions are: 1. why did he want to cut contact with me completely? Is he doing it because he cares for my feelings or because he just doesn't want to be bothered by me? 2. is there any hope we can reconcile and start over?
d0nnivain Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 I'd reach out one more time & tell him some of what you told us. You were playing it cool because you thought he didn't want a relationship. Own up to the miscommunication & ask if you can work through your issues together by talking more. This seems like a fixable problem unless it's just an excuse on his part
Author janejane120 Posted January 26, 2014 Author Posted January 26, 2014 I did ask him for a second chance but he declined. He said he wants to now focus on the other women...
Letmeknow Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 I am sorry to hear that..it sounds like you came out of the honey moon phase and he realized that he wants to be single and mingle around. What kind of a guy is he? Has he slept with alot of other people?
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