dugan978 Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 (edited) me and my girlfriend broke up a month ago with her saying she just wanted some space and wanted to be single and that she just wanted some time to be alone. she has jumped from relationship to relationship. i know a factor is that i was smothering her. she showed up after 3 weeks saying she missed me and gave me a big hug but that she wasnt ready to hangout yet. we talked every few days. I in the past two weeks have not been contacting her she contacts me. nothing is changing so i am wondering should i just ignore her for right now? ignore all her calls and texts to make her miss me and want to come back? she says she keeps the photo collage of us on her night stand and looks at it every night. im in love with this girl and just want her back. she comments and likes everything on my facebook the past week i have not posted anything and i was going to then start ignoring her which i think is the best thing to do. what do i do? ik deep down she doesnt wanna loose me i feel like she just wants to keep me around and go do whatever she wants to do then when shes ready shell come back. basically she knows il wait for her forever. the last time i talked to her was on tuesday and i feel like she has forgotten about me i saw her in town she passed me and waved i acted like i didnt see her. what do i do? other then move on and get over it. shes a one of a kind. Edited January 26, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
d0nnivain Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Since she initiated the break up you can't do anything to get her back. She wanted "space". All you can do is give it to you.
deathandtaxes Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 One of a kind my ass. She's typical of somebody who wants to keep you around as a crutch. Have more dignity than that and don't give this lady the time of day.
erklat Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Yes. All women will do that to you if you let them. Hardcore NC for you. Put yourself in a win-win position!
TaraMaiden Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Yes. All women will do that to you if you let them. *Ahem!* Not 'all' women will.... Include me out, if you don't mind! 1
pickflicker Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 me and my girlfriend broke up a month ago with her saying she just wanted some space and wanted to be single and that she just wanted some time to be alone. she has jumped from relationship to relationship. i know a factor is that i was smothering her. she showed up after 3 weeks saying she missed me and gave me a big hug but that she wasnt ready to hangout yet. we talked every few days. i in the past two weeks have not been contacting her she contacts me. nothing is changing so i am wondering should i just ignore her for right now? ignore all her calls and texts to make her miss me and want to come back? she says she keeps the photo collage of us on her night stand and looks at it every night. im in love with this girl and just want her back. she comments and likes everything on my facebook the past week i have not posted anything and i was going to then start ignoring her which i think is the best thing to do. what do i do? ik deep down she doesnt wanna loose me i feel like she just wants to keep me around and go do whatever she wants to do then when shes ready shell come back. basically she knows il wait for her forever. the last time i talked to her was on tuesday and i feel like she has forgotten about me i saw her in town she passed me and waved i acted like i didnt see her. what do i do? other then move on and get over it. shes a one of a kind. You'll wait forever for her? Oh man. Don't waste your life. She's not one of a kind. 1
pickflicker Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 *Ahem!* Not 'all' women will.... Include me out, if you don't mind! Yes, me too. "All women" is a completely false statement.
Author dugan978 Posted January 26, 2014 Author Posted January 26, 2014 i wouldnt wait forever for her but she knows i will do anything for her she says jump and i would probably say how high. so what should i do just ignore her calls when she does call? she hasnt called in five days so i want to call her or text her so bad but ik that would make it worse. i havent posted on facebook in over a week because ik shes probably checking it. and ik shes been going out alot to. i dont want to just move on yet. so whats my best course of action??
erklat Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 We both know he will be better assuming she will walk all over him than assuming she's of the sort you two claim to be. I chose the worlds poorly, yet you know what I meant. Is it all or most does not help him.
TaraMaiden Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 dugan, how old are you, buddy? I'm guessing quite young.....because you really don't want to get the reputation of being a spineless doormat so early on.... 1
deathandtaxes Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 i wouldnt wait forever for her but she knows i will do anything for her she says jump and i would probably say how high. so what should i do just ignore her calls when she does call? she hasnt called in five days so i want to call her or text her so bad but ik that would make it worse. i havent posted on facebook in over a week because ik shes probably checking it. and ik shes been going out alot to. i dont want to just move on yet. so whats my best course of action?? She's already moved on. She's playing you boy. Have some dignity. For your own benefit, you need to move on. 1
pickflicker Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 i wouldnt wait forever for her but she knows i will do anything for her she says jump and i would probably say how high. so what should i do just ignore her calls when she does call? she hasnt called in five days so i want to call her or text her so bad but ik that would make it worse. i havent posted on facebook in over a week because ik shes probably checking it. and ik shes been going out alot to. i dont want to just move on yet. so whats my best course of action?? She's moved on, you need to as well. Like deathandtaxes said, she's playing you, using you as her emotional tampon. 1
Author dugan978 Posted January 26, 2014 Author Posted January 26, 2014 she probably has moved on by then why does she still have my stuff and say she looks at pictures of us all the time? and she talks about doing things in the future. when she calls should i just talk with her or ignore her for a little while
TaraMaiden Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 she probably has moved on by then why does she still have my stuff and say she looks at pictures of us all the time? and she talks about doing things in the future. when she calls should i just talk with her or ignore her for a little while Have you actually paid any attention at all to anything anyone has advised you....? Ignore her completely! Block her number, delete it from your phone, block her on facebook, block her emails - everything!! Go No Contact and refuse, point-blank to ever have anything to do with her ever again!! Do you now get this???
Author dugan978 Posted January 26, 2014 Author Posted January 26, 2014 i do get it just very hard to do that. but will go no contact.
fixing Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 What she is doing right now is using you to wean herself off you and the relationship. Each day that goes by, you are enabling her to get over you. Cut all contact and either block her on facebook, or dont go on facebook. There is nothing you can do to get her back. She has made a choice to drop you. The only slightest chance you have is to go hardcore no contact. Dont be weak, just disappear from her life. If its meant to be, she will come crawling back at some stage, NOT if you sit there and be her doormat. Time to man up now and walk away head held high.
Author dugan978 Posted January 26, 2014 Author Posted January 26, 2014 what about my stuff she has ? its hard to do this when she throws all these mixed signals. especially when she said to me that she still has a picture collage of us on her night stand and that she looks at it everynight
fixing Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Do you need this stuff? Like honestly? Do you really need it? If yes, then make an appointment to go and collect it. Be amicable, but fast. Get your stuff and leave. If you really dont need the items, then leave it there and start no contact. Ignore all her texts and get her off facebook. Only chance you have with her is if you show her you wont be used as a doormat. She is either with you as your girlfriend, or she isnt with you whatsoever. She cant have it both ways.
Author dugan978 Posted January 26, 2014 Author Posted January 26, 2014 i understand what you all are saying and appreciate the help
Author dugan978 Posted January 26, 2014 Author Posted January 26, 2014 and the best way to show her that is to go no contact which i will do. she knows where i live.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 what about my stuff she has ? its hard to do this when she throws all these mixed signals. especially when she said to me that she still has a picture collage of us on her night stand and that she looks at it everynight Sadly, what you see as mixed signals, everyone else sees as her slowly weening herself off of you. The bad part is a LOT of us have seen this (and had it happen to us) type of behavior. The writing is on the walls and I know you dont see it. If she wanted to be with you, she would be. That part sucks to hear, but it is true.
Author dugan978 Posted January 26, 2014 Author Posted January 26, 2014 im just going to go no contact and will get my things eventually. 2
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