dreamingoftigers Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 OMG, yes. So many clowns. We should get all of our exes together and have a 3-ring circus. I would love to see how many of them we could stuff into one of those little cars! 1
dreamingoftigers Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Ps : is it bad i feel anger and resentment towards him? He just wasted three years of your time! I resent him FOR YOU! Send OUT the clowns! 1
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 That's where the advice comes from: experience. You will experience this crapiness and then you'll Be stronger for the next curve balls life throws at you. I am 31 and I am not sure that most of my peers could handle this as well as you have. You would be labelled a Class Act. If it didn't sound so old-fasioned. Jeepers. My first breakups were without smartphones around. What a brutal temptation to break NC those are. By the way. Every time you go out really make yoyrself look nice. Spend some effort on your hair/clothes. You'll feel better. To be honest, i havent been out since we broke up. I went out once but it was a fail, got home and cried after tht i have been home only. I cant imagine how hard it would have been for you at that time? I atleast have you all to guide me. We should get all of our exes together and have a 3-ring circus. I would love to see how many of them we could stuff into one of those little cars! we should totally! though mine is just 1 , i am sure u both have an amazing list of clowns 1
dreamingoftigers Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 You'll go out soon. And you'll cry the next few times on the way back. But then sometime you'll just be like "oh screw it, i am tired of crying over that clown! 1
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 I have made plans with a friend for weekend. Lets see if I can deal with it! Though this friend has been all of a sudden flirting and all (its C) I dont want to jump into anything when I am not over clownface. So its ok if I go out with him as friends right? 1
soccerrprp Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 3) marry an Assclown I had to laugh at this! 1
jphcbpa Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 I have made plans with a friend for weekend. Lets see if I can deal with it! Though this friend has been all of a sudden flirting and all (its C) I dont want to jump into anything when I am not over clownface. So its ok if I go out with him as friends right? as long as you are not using him as an avoidance behavior and he is crystal clear that you are nothing other than a friend. set a boundary and get gut level honest if you are using him for any sort of validation. otherwise, stick with your lady friends for now. 2
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 as long as you are not using him as an avoidance behavior and he is crystal clear that you are nothing other than a friend. set a boundary and get gut level honest if you are using him for any sort of validation. otherwise, stick with your lady friends for now. I am not. I am against rebounds frim the starting. And for me I know I am still not over clownface (ex) so i dont want to do something else. my friend knows it. He is friend-zoned. 1
dreamingoftigers Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 I am not. I am against rebounds frim the starting. And for me I know I am still not over clownface (ex) so i dont want to do something else. my friend knows it. He is friend-zoned. You are the first woman I ever ever known that has intentionally "friendzoned" a guy. I married my "friend." So did my mother. (She married her "friend." Not my friend. He's my father.) 1
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 You are the first woman I ever ever known that has intentionally "friendzoned" a guy. I married my "friend." So did my mother. (She married her "friend." Not my friend. He's my father.) Im so complex and I made a huge mistake. What was I thinking? I got inspired and thought I would change his name to "clownface" , since I already had his whatsapps to which i hadnt replied I went and changed his name to that not realising tht i in short saved his contact number -.- & then I saw his status just as i was freaking out to remove him , "some memories never fade (blushy emote)" And it crushed me. So he is moving on, not like its something i didnt expect but it hurts so bad. What as i thinking?
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 I mean I know this was bond to happen sooner or later? But this sooner? when he promised me there was noone else? Or is it just another rubbing it in my face that he is happy? If so im happy for him
hea Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 It could mean anything. Not at all that he's moving on! He could be thinking of times with you, his family, friends anything. And he's probably put it to get at you, and looks like he's succeeded! Don't think too much about it, emotions are high, and at this time you will never be right in thinking what he's thinking. 1
LostConfused123 Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Im so complex and I made a huge mistake. What was I thinking? I got inspired and thought I would change his name to "clownface" , since I already had his whatsapps to which i hadnt replied I went and changed his name to that not realising tht i in short saved his contact number -.- & then I saw his status just as i was freaking out to remove him , "some memories never fade (blushy emote)" And it crushed me. So he is moving on, not like its something i didnt expect but it hurts so bad. What as i thinking? Stop doing this to yourself. You should know absolutely nothing about him anymore. I know that sounds harsh but you're causing yourself extra pain. You can do it!! ((hugs!!)) 1
redbaron005 Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 bubblesbursted I just want to jump in here and say that you seem like an extraordinarily strong person. Its inspiring. Hang in there. 1
dreamingoftigers Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 If he is "moving on" then he moved on during your relationship. And that my girl is EXACTLY the man you don't want. No matter how it hurts. If it wasn't for the blushy face I wouldn't suspect in that instance But as well I really can't figure what the heck that is supposed to mean if it wasn't about you. If it was someone else, it's a bit soon to be referring to her as having "memories" with her. Tonight is probably gonna be a tough one Grab yourself a hot chocolate. 1
dreamingoftigers Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 No guessing what that would be. You don't have a Clown Face Rosetta Stone.
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 If he is "moving on" then he moved on during your relationship. And that my girl is EXACTLY the man you don't want. No matter how it hurts. If it wasn't for the blushy face I wouldn't suspect in that instance But as well I really can't figure what the heck that is supposed to mean if it wasn't about you. If it was someone else, it's a bit soon to be referring to her as having "memories" with her. Tonight is probably gonna be a tough one Grab yourself a hot chocolate. I thought the same, 'blushy face' , of course he is doing this to rub it in my face. Night was hard, cried myself to sleep, had a dream about him -.- about us and right now just lying on the bed and crying. I didnt mean to snoop , I didnt realize what happened. I feel so sad right now. i didnt know he could be this way.
dreamingoftigers Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 I thought the same, 'blushy face' , of course he is doing this to rub it in my face. Night was hard, cried myself to sleep, had a dream about him -.- about us and right now just lying on the bed and crying. I didnt mean to snoop , I didnt realize what happened. I feel so sad right now. i didnt know he could be this way. Conflict-avoiders wear their Sunday Best for as long as they can. Don't worry Bubble. This night will pass. The more grief you dig through, the clearer things get. 1
Eivuwan Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 Hey Bubble, I want to let you know you're doing pretty well. My ex broke up with me after knowing me for 7 years and dating 5-6 of those 7 years. I'm letting you know that from my experience, 100% NC is the best way. That includes deleting everything. Blocking him from everything. That way you won't accidentally check his status or things like that and you won't be distracted by any possible messages he'll send you. I know it's hard, but it's also a relief like other people say. When there is no possibility of reconciliation, then you can really start moving on and being free. If necessary you should power off your phone or the internet for awhile and do things outdoors. That could help break the habit. 1
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 Conflict-avoiders wear their Sunday Best for as long as they can. Don't worry Bubble. This night will pass. The more grief you dig through, the clearer things get. I dont want to think about him. I woke up having a dream of hil and now am having urges to contact him. I know I shouldnt. I am trying my best, believe me. I was okay and then something like this happens and then i feel I am back to square one.
Eivuwan Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 I dont want to think about him. I woke up having a dream of hil and now am having urges to contact him. I know I shouldnt. I am trying my best, believe me. I was okay and then something like this happens and then i feel I am back to square one. Is there anything you can do to distract yourself until the urge passes? Like play a game, watch a thriller etc? 1
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 Hey Bubble, I want to let you know you're doing pretty well. My ex broke up with me after knowing me for 7 years and dating 5-6 of those 7 years. I'm letting you know that from my experience, 100% NC is the best way. That includes deleting everything. Blocking him from everything. That way you won't accidentally check his status or things like that and you won't be distracted by any possible messages he'll send you. I know it's hard, but it's also a relief like other people say. When there is no possibility of reconciliation, then you can really start moving on and being free. If necessary you should power off your phone or the internet for awhile and do things outdoors. That could help break the habit. I have already removed him since the time I realized what I did. and thank you! I will do that. 1
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 Is there anything you can do to distract yourself until the urge passes? Like play a game, watch a thriller etc? I cant try something. Maybe read a book or something. 1
Eivuwan Posted January 30, 2014 Posted January 30, 2014 I have already removed him since the time I realized what I did. and thank you! I will do that. Good good. Excellent. My ex and I broke up a couple of times before this and it took me years of back and forth before I finally got fed up enough to do NC as cleanly as I did the last time. I have to admit I play a lot of video games the month after the break up. Then I went and did a lot of meet up groups. Now I am feeling great and have a new bf who is much better. 1
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 30, 2014 Author Posted January 30, 2014 Good good. Excellent. My ex and I broke up a couple of times before this and it took me years of back and forth before I finally got fed up enough to do NC as cleanly as I did the last time. I have to admit I play a lot of video games the month after the break up. Then I went and did a lot of meet up groups. Now I am feeling great and have a new bf who is much better. Video games. Hmmm..it does sound nice. I am happy for you! & the urge hasnt gone yet.
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