Author bubblesbursted Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 And she is asking me if I ate or not? She never does it? Is it him talking to me from his mom's number? If so I wont reply to that. I am just so lost.
Zahara Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 You need to cut contact with his mom. Tell her that you both are broken up and for your emotional and mental wellbeing, it would be best that you both do not speak for some time, at least until you are healed. It doesn't matter whether it is his news to tell her, you need to do it so that you can prioritize your moving forward and cutting ties to him. 2
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 You need to cut contact with his mom. Tell her that you both are broken up and for your emotional and mental wellbeing, it would be best that you both do not speak for some time, at least until you are healed. It doesn't matter whether it is his news to tell her, you need to do it so that you can prioritize your moving forward and cutting ties to him. I feel bad for breaking the news to her, he should be doing that. His mom is a nice woman unlike her son? ( ) . I stopped talking to her told her I have some errands to run.
Zahara Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 I feel bad for breaking the news to her, he should be doing that. His mom is a nice woman unlike her son? ( ) . I stopped talking to her told her I have some errands to run. There's no need to feel bad for her. She will be sad for a few minutes but she'll continue and go on as normal, taking care of her son and looking out for him. Her son is her priority, not you. If there's one thing you need to do, it is to stop putting other people's feelings ahead of yours. When it was about to the ring, you felt it insensitive to do that to him. In terms of his mother, you feel bad to hurt her. You need to remember that more than anyone in this situation, YOU are the one that has been hurt the most. His mom will go about like normal. He will go about like normal. Not you. You have a journey into pain and healing. Remove him and her from whatsapp. Explain to her that the relationship is over and that you need to heal. If you don't, I would have to say that you want her on there and choose not to tell her because it can perpetuate contact and contact helps you in some way have an opening into what he's doing, how he's feeling and what's going on. In order for NC to be successful, you have to eliminate anything/anyone that triggers feelings, emotions, thoughts of the ex. 2
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 There's no need to feel bad for her. She will be sad for a few minutes but she'll continue and go on as normal, taking care of her son and looking out for him. Her son is her priority, not you. If there's one thing you need to do, it is to stop putting other people's feelings ahead of yours. When it was about to the ring, you felt it insensitive to do that to him. In terms of his mother, you feel bad to hurt her. You need to remember that more than anyone in this situation, YOU are the one that has been hurt the most. His mom will go about like normal. He will go about like normal. Not you. You have a journey into pain and healing. Remove him and her from whatsapp. Explain to her that the relationship is over and that you need to heal. If you don't, I would have to say that you want her on there and choose not to tell her because it can perpetuate contact and contact helps you in some way have an opening into what he's doing, how he's feeling and what's going on. In order for NC to be successful, you have to eliminate anything/anyone that triggers feelings, emotions, thoughts of the ex. You are right. I will remove his mom from whatsapp. I dont want to know anything about him when I am healing. I dont want to see his pic even. And his mom contacted me I didnt. So I dont know how all of a sudden it happened. I had already removed clownman from whatsapp since 2 days ago. 1
Zahara Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 You are right. I will remove his mom from whatsapp. I dont want to know anything about him when I am healing. I dont want to see his pic even. And his mom contacted me I didnt. So I dont know how all of a sudden it happened. I had already removed clownman from whatsapp since 2 days ago. I think clownman's ego is bruised because you ignored his stupid request to be friends, then you are having C communicate with him so he's now trying to get other ways to engage you. He probably put his mom up to it. And didn't he say that he didn't even feel like talking to you as he was getting close to the break-up? If that's the case, you're just giving him what he so desired. 2
Zahara Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 You know what he's thinking -- shoot, she was all over me, begging, crying and pleading (and trust me his ego was inflated) and now she's not talking to me. Hmmm. That needs to change. Your attention validates him. Don't give it to him. He needs to be in control. Don't give it to him. 2
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 I think clownman's ego is bruised because you ignored his stupid request to be friends, then you are having C communicate with him so he's now trying to get other ways to engage you. He probably put his mom up to it. And didn't he say that he didn't even feel like talking to you as he was getting close to the break-up? If that's the case, you're just giving him what he so desired. I did, I ignored his other texts as well today (because thats what the guide says) and I dont even doubt he wouldnt have. He is an egoistic person too much proud. And he did, he said he didnt miss me or felt like talking to me. Then why the hell would I be "friends" with someone like this? Ps: Clownmen cracks me up everytime! You know what he's thinking -- shoot, she was all over me, begging, crying and pleading (and trust me his ego was inflated) and now she's not talking to me. Hmmm. That needs to change. Your attention validates him. Don't give it to him. He needs to be in control. Don't give it to him. I should have thought this way since like I said above he is so egoistic -.-. I shouldnt have fed to his ego. I am not giving him the control! I call the shots now. He dumped me. He can s**k it. 1
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 You know what he's thinking -- shoot, she was all over me, begging, crying and pleading (and trust me his ego was inflated) and now she's not talking to me. Hmmm. That needs to change. Your attention validates him. Don't give it to him. He needs to be in control. Don't give it to him. Zahara how do you and dreamingoftigers tend to speak and say exactly the right thing! Man I wish i could be like you both:o 1
Zahara Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Zahara how do you and dreamingoftigers tend to speak and say exactly the right thing! Man I wish i could be like you both:o It comes from heartbreak, experience, dealing with assclowns, making mistakes, etc. I wish it all came from a happy place! 2
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 It comes from heartbreak, experience, dealing with assclowns, making mistakes, etc. I wish it all came from a happy place! I wish noone had to go through that. Can I ask you something? I am worried about my health. My legs shake when I walk, I feel like I would fall when I walk, my hands also shake i mean fingers and then I get so tired if I even walk from my bedroom to washroom. Then I sometimes forget stuff. It has all started happening since this happened. Is it normal?
Zahara Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 I wish noone had to go through that. Can I ask you something? I am worried about my health. My legs shake when I walk, I feel like I would fall when I walk, my hands also shake i mean fingers and then I get so tired if I even walk from my bedroom to washroom. Then I sometimes forget stuff. It has all started happening since this happened. Is it normal? I have a feeling it is partly from you not eating right, not sleeping well and getting enough rest, feeling emotionally traumatized and drained. When I was going through my break up, especially after my sleeping pattern was jacked up and I could hardly eat a bite, I couldn't even hold my head up at one point. I was so weak and frail. Your body is getting hit emotionally, mentally and physically. You have to nourish it, if all you can do is eat your daily meals and hydrate. You must get back to a normal eating pattern. Go out for walks, light exercise will make you feel better. 2
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 I have a feeling it is partly from you not eating right, not sleeping well and getting enough rest, feeling emotionally traumatized and drained. When I was going through my break up, especially after my sleeping pattern was jacked up and I could hardly eat a bite, I couldn't even hold my head up at one point. I was so weak and frail. Your body is getting hit emotionally, mentally and physically. You have to nourish it, if all you can do is eat your daily meals and hydrate. You must get back to a normal eating pattern. Go out for walks, light exercise will make you feel better. I am trying to eat right. I have started eating once in 2 days now which is an improvment , i just hope its not something serious? I am sleeping on time , as far as i know, 8 hours but with nightmares. It will pass right? or should i consult a doc?
Zahara Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 I am trying to eat right. I have started eating once in 2 days now which is an improvment , i just hope its not something serious? I am sleeping on time , as far as i know, 8 hours but with nightmares. It will pass right? or should i consult a doc? There's no harm in consulting your doctor. If you are worried and it is adding onto the stress and anxiety of your break-up, it doesn't hurt to get that resolved. Then it will be one less thing to worry about. 2
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 There's no harm in consulting your doctor. If you are worried and it is adding onto the stress and anxiety of your break-up, it doesn't hurt to get that resolved. Then it will be one less thing to worry about. Thanks , I will get it sorted I am sorry , i feel like i am bothering you and half the Ls forum so much with my breakup
hea Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Your not bothering anyone. If you were no one would reply, but everyone wants to help! Make sure you eat, even if you don't feel like it. Your probably lacking energy. Nightmares will pass. 1
BDL Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 During the first few weeks of my breakup from my gf of 2 years, I lost 20 lbs because I didn't feel at all like cooking or going out to eat. But I knew I needed nutrition and find the easiest, least effort way to get food into my body. My secret? I started juicing. Takes just 2-3 minutes a day. I credit juicing with helping me get over my ex sooner, have more energy to jog and hit the gym, and be healthier at the same time. If you have Netflix, check out the movie "Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead" for inspiration. 1
Zahara Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Thanks , I will get it sorted I am sorry , i feel like i am bothering you and half the Ls forum so much with my breakup You're not bothering anyone! It's what this forum is for. You're not giving us much of a task since you're doing so well! 2
dreamingoftigers Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Zahara how do you and dreamingoftigers tend to speak and say exactly the right thing! Man I wish i could be like you both:o Well there's 3 easy steps to be just like me: 1) ruin your credit 2) gain 100-150 Lbs 3) marry an Assclown 1
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 I didnt realize you and Zahara went through alot , experience made you wiser. I really admire you both ! Even after so much you both still have your sense of humor! Thats amazimg quality. You both really do inspire me. 2
dreamingoftigers Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 You're not bothering anyone! It's what this forum is for. You're not giving us much of a task since you're doing so well! Jeepers, This is my HAPPY thread.....LOL. Although it stinks what BB is going through she actually GETS IT and comprehends the sense behind the advice. Nice girl too! So much more deserving than this JerkfaceClownMan who is now using his MOMMY to keep in touch with her! Looks like his true colours include red for his nose Look at that He thought he was so far ahead and now he's broken NC three times. Okay. Prepare for the next bit. It seems that he did do this impulsively so he will probably make some contact in other inappropriate ways like insulting you or yakking a bunch of crap to other people for your reaction. DO NOT TAKE THE BAIT. 1
dreamingoftigers Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 I didnt realize you and Zahara went through alot , experience made you wiser. I really admire you both ! Even after so much you both still have your sense of humor! Thats amazimg quality. You both really do inspire me. That's where the advice comes from: experience. You will experience this crapiness and then you'll Be stronger for the next curve balls life throws at you. I am 31 and I am not sure that most of my peers could handle this as well as you have. You would be labelled a Class Act. If it didn't sound so old-fasioned. Jeepers. My first breakups were without smartphones around. What a brutal temptation to break NC those are. By the way. Every time you go out really make yoyrself look nice. Spend some effort on your hair/clothes. You'll feel better. 1
dreamingoftigers Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 I didnt realize you and Zahara went through alot , experience made you wiser. I really admire you both ! Even after so much you both still have your sense of humor! Thats amazimg quality. You both really do inspire me. Of course we have our sense of humor.......... We dated CLOWNS! 2
Author bubblesbursted Posted January 29, 2014 Author Posted January 29, 2014 Jeepers, This is my HAPPY thread.....LOL. Although it stinks what BB is going through she actually GETS IT and comprehends the sense behind the advice. Nice girl too! So much more deserving than this JerkfaceClownMan who is now using his MOMMY to keep in touch with her! Looks like his true colours include red for his nose Look at that He thought he was so far ahead and now he's broken NC three times. Okay. Prepare for the next bit. It seems that he did do this impulsively so he will probably make some contact in other inappropriate ways like insulting you or yakking a bunch of crap to other people for your reaction. DO NOT TAKE THE BAIT. Awwie I feel loved! And I just want to get over the jerface slash clownman asap because like you all said there is someone waiting fir me who deserves me and I am not going to let go of the happiness i deserve. And I find his behaviour too immature? Who does that? Using his m really? Thats stupid. And dont worry he is nit going to get any reply from me anytime soon . Guide To Nc saysbI shouldnt react to crumbs. Ps : is it bad i feel anger and resentment towards him? 1
Zahara Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Of course we have our sense of humor.......... We dated CLOWNS! OMG, yes. So many clowns. 2
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