Eggplant Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 How important is it that your partner have a similar taste in music? To me it's always been a little disappointing when mine didn't like what I did, or when he liked blah music. It's also been more exciting when he enjoyed what I liked, or when I really liked his playlist. Listening to music together and mutually enjoying it to me seems like a bonding experience.
almond Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 My partner and I have very different tastes in music. Sometimes we cross over, and that's nice, but I don't particularly care either way. We bond in many different ways, and I don't feel like we're missing anything by not liking all the same music. 3
mammasita Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 I don't think it really matters......for me at least. When I was younger, it was a deal breaker. Now I don't give a damn, but at the same time I'm much more open to different types of music.
Author Eggplant Posted January 26, 2014 Author Posted January 26, 2014 I have a lot of passion, and music is one of the only ways to tap into that.
mortensorchid Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 I think men and women in general have different tastes in music. When I was younger, I was a snotty 90s hipster and I thought I was all that. Now, I look back and say "Oh dear, I was such a snob about it, wasn't I?" But we all do things like that. Now that I am older I just see that men and women in general have very different tastes in music. Men in general like metal, women like softer things. Some can cross over to other other, but in general there will be this gap. Unless it's something super obvious, like his music collection consists of nothing but Cher and Madonna (know what I mean), don't let it bother you.
M30USA Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 I've pretty much accepted the fact that my favorite band Rush is just NOT liked by the ladies, lol. But numbers 2 through 10 have a shot.
GemmaUK Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 I prefer that we have some music tastes which cross over at least. I like to go to gigs and music festivals as it's something I enjoy but I won't go and see eg Madonna just because she is who she is. I think I only have one of her albums. Equally though if someone I were dating wanted to come along with me to see a band he hadn't even heard of I would find it a bit wierd. Seems like he wanted to go just because I was and not for the music. There was one funny incident where a guy I was seeing wanted to come along to see a band I love. It was all planned that I would get the tickets when they went on sale. I had sent him a link to my fave track and he said he liked them too. All good. One day at my place I stuck one of their CDs on to that fave track of mine and after a short while he asked what on earth it was as he thought it was terrible! I said it was the band we were due to go and see...the band he said he liked.....
d0nnivain Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Music doesn't mean much to me. As long as it's not vulgar, I could care less.
regine_phalange Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Music was the reason 2 of my ex boyfriends noticed me (and I noticed them back). I have great memories of night road trips with great music.
EasyHeart Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 If I didn't date women with horrible taste in music, I would still be a virgin.
acrosstheuniverse Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 It's important to an extent. I've never clicked with anybody who wasn't passionate about music, probably because it's my absolute greatest passion by far, my degree is in it, I spend all of my free time listening to it or playing it, if someone is just 'meh, whatever' about music we just don't click. Someone doesn't have to love what I love (I'm relatively specific about my tastes) but they have to love SOMETHING and ideally not hate what I love because we'll be spending half of the time listening to it and half theirs! If someone is passionate about their own music and can share that with me, give me an insight into what does it for them about it, that's brilliant. If we happen to get one another into an artist the other person is passionate about, all the better. But yeah basically, the music issue is the number one thing in compatibility for me. I think I've only ever dated one or two non-musicians. 2
vanhalenfan Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 I've pretty much accepted the fact that my favorite band Rush is just NOT liked by the ladies, lol. But numbers 2 through 10 have a shot. I LOVE Rush!! And I'm a lady
Shepp Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Doesn't matter to me. Tastes in humour, sport, hobbies, holidays even food - they could all matter in whether I'd feel compatible enough with someone. But music tastes - I really couldn't give a damn. But then I have quite a wide range of music I like, I'm not someone who's like a hardcore heavy metal fan or something, if I was, maybe I'd care. I'd totally understand if a girl who was super passionately into a type of music and going to their gigs decided I wasn't the right guy for her because it wasn't something we could share together.......same as I'd feel like a girl who hated sport would never be able to understand me as well. 2
Woggle Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 I play music around the house all the time so it is good she has similar tastes to mine. 1
yellowmaverick Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 My partner doesn't necessarily have to share my taste in music, but I am never, ever going to get into the mood to do the wild thing with the twang, twang of country music in the background. 2
JDPT Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 My ex and I had very polarized tastes. She enjoyed the very girly girl music I on the other hand enjoy a more vulgar genre. It was seldom that I played "my" type of music around her out of respect or perhaps a bit of embarrassment but I didn't mind her playing the girly type of music while we were in the car going somewhere. I recall her borrowing my car once and I guess she decided to go through my ipod. When she returned my vehicle she gave me such a cute surprised looked and said "I couldn't find one saw that I liked on your ipod hahaha..." 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I've pretty much accepted the fact that my favorite band Rush is just NOT liked by the ladies, lol. But numbers 2 through 10 have a shot. Hah! I'm not into Rush particularly but my 'niche' genre is progressive metal/progressive rock, luckily there are tonnes of dudes into bands like Dream Theater, Symphony X, Pink Floyd, Tool, Porcupine Tree, Riverside etc. but can't say I see many girls around at the gigs I attend!
AlwaysGrowing Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I listen to music all the time, and a wide range. Except for country. Now, there might be a few songs I don't mind, but as a genre it is too repetitive for me. I honestly can't tell one song from the next. I can not see me being with an exclusive country fan. They probably wouldn't like how wide my tastes are...except for country.
Author Eggplant Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 Sharing musical taste could help the relationship. For example, if you both enjoy classical music, then you can go to the symphony together. If you dance, then it's nice to both enjoy the music. When in the car together, it's fun to share enthusiasm about songs. Around the house, if one person wants to put a record on, it's nice if there is mutual appreciation. Also, music expresses mood and if you share a song or a piece, I feel you connect on a non-verbal level. 1
Emilia Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Sharing musical taste could help the relationship. For example, if you both enjoy classical music, then you can go to the symphony together. If you dance, then it's nice to both enjoy the music. When in the car together, it's fun to share enthusiasm about songs. Around the house, if one person wants to put a record on, it's nice if there is mutual appreciation. Also, music expresses mood and if you share a song or a piece, I feel you connect on a non-verbal level. This is true, especially being able to enjoy musical events together, it's a shame if the two of you can't. I have quite wide range and will give anything a go so even if he doesn't like mine so much, I'm likely to be able to tolerate his at least on occasions.
todreaminblue Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 I think its good to be open to music ........all types.....never could get my head around thrash metal......guys who i have gone out with have introduced me to music i adore and music i go meh too... i think its good to like some music that is similar.......but it isnt imperative that it be so...i think outdoors indoors is more of a concern...deb 1
Radu Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 How important is it that your partner have a similar taste in music? To me it's always been a little disappointing when mine didn't like what I did, or when he liked blah music. It's also been more exciting when he enjoyed what I liked, or when I really liked his playlist. Listening to music together and mutually enjoying it to me seems like a bonding experience. As long as it's not 'manele' [youtube it to learn to dread it], i don't mind what she's listening to. There are more important requirements than for her to listen to heavy metal with me.
Shepp Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 My partner doesn't necessarily have to share my taste in music, but I am never, ever going to get into the mood to do the wild thing with the twang, twang of country music in the background. Hahah, I love a bit of country, my gf doesn't - I put it on super loud in the car to annoy her The best thing though is we have 3month old twins and they pretty damn well enjoy a bit of Rascal Flatts and Chad Brownlee! It proper annoys her :DShe keeps trying to play them like The killers, The kooks, You Me at Six - ain't working though Personally I think the girl does protest too much - I've caught her singing along more than once!
yellowmaverick Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Hahah, I love a bit of country, my gf doesn't - I put it on super loud in the car to annoy her The best thing though is we have 3month old twins and they pretty damn well enjoy a bit of Rascal Flatts and Chad Brownlee! It proper annoys her :DShe keeps trying to play them like The killers, The kooks, You Me at Six - ain't working though Personally I think the girl does protest too much - I've caught her singing along more than once! My kids all grew up listening to the Stones, AC/DC, Elton John, and Aerosmith. They have all downloaded my music onto their I-pods.
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