Question for the girls. Would you still text a guy if youre not interested?

[Zippy2000]

Good day, Loveshackers!

 

Im asking this question as a brief background. Last July 2013 I met a girl at a party. We had a wee chat a few laughs and she asked me out for a drink on a date.

 

Fast forward and to cut a long story short. Turns out about a month after she changed her mind about me. We never made it to a second date but she did say she wants me a friend as I m a really nice guy but here`s the thing. MOST women who have said that tend to fade away into obscurity and you dont hear from them again.

 

However since last July we have been texting each other EVERY DAY! She texts first thing in the morning when I send the last text at night. We also sometimes talk on the phone, and when I do phone her, or when I see her. She ALWAYS sends me a text to say thank you for phoning, or meeting me later.

 

I dont get it. I also know she isnt on any dating sites because Im on them all. So, I m not hanging around.

 

I m asking if a girl isn`t interested you sexually/romantically. Why is she STILL texting me?

[BlametheIrish]

She could be filling a void until the right guy comes along. Would you still be so friendly with her if you were 100% positive she had zero interest in you other than friends? If so then continue the friendship.

 

If you're only conversing with her in hopes of another chance at dating her then I'd give it another go and then cut my losses if she wasn't interested.

[Avulare]

I text guy friends all the time that I'm not interested in romantically, some of which have expressed interest in me. I'm very careful not to send mixed signals though... I don't say things that could be misconstrued as being flirty, and if the dudes say something flirty to me, I either change the topic or don't reply.

[Zippy2000]

She could be filling a void until the right guy comes along. Would you still be so friendly with her if you were 100% positive she had zero interest in you other than friends? If so then continue the friendship.

 

If you're only conversing with her in hopes of another chance at dating her then I'd give it another go and then cut my losses if she wasn't interested.

 

 

Thank you for your input. I thing you are right. Shes filling in a void. I m on her Facebook and she has next to NO male friends except for a few acquaintences. The thing is she`s never really said no, just replied she wasnt looking for anything right now.

 

To answer you above question. Im still friends with lots of girls who rejected me and I still speak to them.

[Zippy2000]

Aluvare. I think this is how it all started when she asked me out the first couple of weeks when I met her. I was quite flirty but I did notice her texts didnt flirt back or she`d just blank them altogether, but she always replied.

 

This is what I dont get. All my close friends dont feel the need to text me. This morning she text me to say shes off for a walk. This is been going on all the way since last July and although I enjoy it. I m also open to a relationship and have been on dating sites.

 

I do know with some of my female friends. Once I knew them, but many after a couple of years. They do chnage their mind, and one even said she "saw me in a new light" when I met someone really good looking. lol

[mammasita]

Are you sure she is straight? She might be dealing with figuring out her sexuality. Just a thought.

[ShiningMoon]

No. I stop texting after a while. Also, if I don't initiate texting at all, it means I'm not into you. Don't bother.