malfide Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 (edited) So I've asked this girl out from church for a dinner who's 6 years older then me. After the first date she paid for everything and told me to pay the next time. I've heard that women paying at the first date is a bad sign. After saying goodbye at her house she sent me a text message later that night that thanks to me she got to eat a nice meal. After few days I've asked her if she wanted to go see a movie but she already had plan with a female friend. And asked if it would be ok if she brought a friend along. Since I wasn't comfortable with that we decided to go next week. I'm bit confused here what she thinks about me. Is it that she just wants to be a friend? Why would she else want to bring a friend? Edited January 25, 2014 by malfide
BlametheIrish Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 She sounds interested. She wanted to see you that day but already had plans with her friend so she decided maybe all three can hang out and she gets the best of both worlds. My concern is how you could possibly think you're in lovr with spmeone you've only gone on one date with. How old are you?
TaraMaiden Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Your last post here was in 2012. You never replied in that thread. Maybe you won't reply here either..... Yes, I think she probably just wants to be a friend. Bringing a friend is self-protecting. In a dark cinema, she has a companion to 'chaperone' her. She may think you are too young for her and may get ideas.... It's a bit early to think about what things mean, when you've only seen her once.... How old are you, exactly?
Author malfide Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 I'm 26 btw. I think in love with her came bit too strong. Having crush on her is better suited. English isn't my first language. And I've known her for about a month now
lollipopspot Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Six years? I don't consider that an "older woman" at your age. To me, that's a peer. I'm wondering if you think that the woman should be younger than the male?
gaius Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Don't let her run the show even though she's older. You probably tanked it letting her pay for the whole thing the first time and expressing feelings on a first date. Now she feels the need for a chaperone. Learning experience! We all have them. Keep hanging out with her but care less and maybe you can salvage it.
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