Cheated on fiance, wondering about our future

[Discjockey80]

Many a WW claims the sex was better because all the hype about that forbidden fruit tastes sweeter. The thrill of being bad and getting away with it always heightens the emotions.

 

 

 

True, very good point. But I am taking her at her word (from all I can tell) based on her response, that there is something deeper that made her have amazing sex with someone she hasn't known for a fraction of the time she has known her ex-fiancé/bf.

 

 

In a healthy relationship, the longevity and closeness should facilitate better intimacy opportunities and thus potential for passion. Granted long term marriages and relationships have this issue a lot. (Lack of intimacy and passion) But the potential for repair and improvement has to be there and this is usually not an issue early on in the relationship, as it is here.

 

 

I get the impression that there might be a case of 'settling' for someone here and that's why my advice is to end it. Let the boyfriend find someone who can love him with passion and vice versa.

Edited January 29, 2014 by Discjockey80

[bubbaganoosh]

There's one other thing that you should know. The sex might be top flight with an encore of fireworks but, a relationship isn't just having sex 24/7.

 

Sooner or later you have to get out of bed and then, that's when you find out if the relationship is a good one.

 

A relationship has to be in the rest of the rooms in the house plus outside the home. All the great sex in the bedroom and nothing in the rest of the home isn't a relationship. It's a FWB situation and that is not a relationship. That's a "you use me and I use you and that's all there is" and don't expect anything more.

 

You just might have screwed yourself out of a good man for a cheap thrill. Hard lesson to learn when all is said and done.

[William]

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