Do I go no contact without saying anything?

[mixy]

Basically, the guy I've been dating began ignoring me. He said he wanted time to himself to think so he can come back and talk with a clear head, but I think he's just dragging me along. This has been going on for weeks, months. I started becoming interested in someone else and I'm going to exclusively be seeing them. Should I tell him this? Or not?

[HeartinPain]

In my opinion, if you are not exclusive and he wants "time," you need to move on and give him just that. You don't need to be wasting your time waiting for someone who doesn't know what he wants.

 

While you wait for him, you are missing opportunities. Go date others. You do not need to tell him anything. If he has been ignoring you for months, it means he is too much of a coward to tell you directly he no longer wants to see you.

[Survivor12]

Why is telling him even a consideration? If your relationship is over, your life is none of his business, and from what you've said, he doesn't really care. So, what makes you think he would? What is it you think would be accomplished? What kind of response do you expect--and want?

 

Think about it. Hoping it will bring him back, make him jealous or regret walking away would indicate that you still have unresolved feelings and aren't ready for a new relationship.

[guest572]

As he has ignored you for months I would consider it officially over, so you shouldn't feel obliged to tell him (assuming you are even able to get through to him). Having said that, I would want to make sure that door is slammed shut before going into a new relationship, I can see why you would want to notify him. It sounds like he has left you in limbo and you don't know exactly where you stand, which is very unfair.

[melell]

I get the impression there has been the odd bit of contact during this time?

If so, next time he reaches out let him know (especially if he was genuinely just clearing his head), but until then just get on with your life