conmorse Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Lately this past week I've been finding myself thinking about my ex Non stop. It's been 2.5 months since the break up. I've been in NC ever since. I can't stop thinking about her no matter what I'm doing throughout the day. I have thoughts of maybe breaking NC but I know that will only have negative results. I just can't seem to shake the fact that you can be so in tune with someone for 2 years, and all of the sudden they're just out of your life and you just become strangers to one another. I'm sad that I lost not only a companion, But a friend... Regardless this is how breakups work and that's the risk of relationships
realfriends Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Lately this past week I've been finding myself thinking about my ex Non stop. It's been 2.5 months since the break up. I've been in NC ever since. I can't stop thinking about her no matter what I'm doing throughout the day. I have thoughts of maybe breaking NC but I know that will only have negative results. I just can't seem to shake the fact that you can be so in tune with someone for 2 years, and all of the sudden they're just out of your life and you just become strangers to one another. I'm sad that I lost not only a companion, But a friend... Regardless this is how breakups work and that's the risk of relationships Its hard man. I know it. 4.5 years of my life just gone like that. Its hard to really swallow. The only thing you can do is learn from it and worry and take care of yourself. Its easier said than done. Im only at 63 days of NC and 3 months BU so I know how hard it can be. You just have to push on one inch at a time. Breaking NC won't do anything but hurt you. I remember my first couple of weeks, I practically begged and just had so many questions for her. She abandoned me. One of the most faithful and loyal people in my life suddenly disappeared and lost everything. I still get urges to know what she's doing, to "accidentally" look at one of her friends social media pages and find a picture of her. What i have learned though is that the amount that it hurts to do stuff like that and to break NC is simply not worth it. Just stay strong and keep busy (easier said than done).
BC1980 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Lately this past week I've been finding myself thinking about my ex Non stop. It's been 2.5 months since the break up. I've been in NC ever since. I can't stop thinking about her no matter what I'm doing throughout the day. I have thoughts of maybe breaking NC but I know that will only have negative results. I just can't seem to shake the fact that you can be so in tune with someone for 2 years, and all of the sudden they're just out of your life and you just become strangers to one another. I'm sad that I lost not only a companion, But a friend... Regardless this is how breakups work and that's the risk of relationships I still wonder how this person I lived with and planned a future with just left one day. It was like he was a different person. When I think back on our time together, it seems unbelievable that he would do something as sh*tty as what he ended up doing. I have all these memories, and I don't know what to do with them. It's a past life it seems, but, at times, I feel that I could slip right back into it. Freaking weird.
Haydn Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 All horribly normal its seems to many of us. I got rid of everything she was. Sad but i had to do it. It felt like standing up again. Took a while. I still wonder how this person I lived with and planned a future with just left one day. It was like he was a different person. When I think back on our time together, it seems unbelievable that he would do something as sh*tty as what he ended up doing. I have all these memories, and I don't know what to do with them. It's a past life it seems, but, at times, I feel that I could slip right back into it. Freaking weird.
disclosure Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 (edited) oops. wrong place. Edited January 25, 2014 by disclosure
Haydn Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 I have read your posts, your break up was mutual? If so then you both should make the attempt. If i misunderstood sorry, just like to hear something happy. If i have this wrong then ignore. oops. wrong place.
realfriends Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 I still wonder how this person I lived with and planned a future with just left one day. It was like he was a different person. When I think back on our time together, it seems unbelievable that he would do something as sh*tty as what he ended up doing. I have all these memories, and I don't know what to do with them. It's a past life it seems, but, at times, I feel that I could slip right back into it. Freaking weird. Im right there with you. When I think about it a lot I start to ask myself "why me"? I still have a hard time believing it. I still have a hard time believing I won't hear from her or her family ever again. I still have a hard time realizing we probably won't be heading to the same graduate schools. I have a hard believing that 4.5 years of joy and bliss with her are over, and over for good. Im still kinda in denial.
allcriedout1 Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 I can so relate to your feelings. We were together for a little over 8 years and suddenly he was done with me. He was my best friend, companion, the one I always talked to about my ups and my downs. Now he is a complete stranger. How can that be? I am also in denial... one of the stages of grieving. That is what this is... we are grieving the loss of a relationship which has similar emotions to grieving a death. Hang in there! I feel your pain. 1
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