iworthmore Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 being at work is amazing relief, after that going to the gym, seeing friends. life is ok in general. not thinking of her much during the day, but when i do, i remember how much i hate her. been cpl months, already accepted the break up. but now im dealing with the cheating. its ****ty feeling to be betrayed. to be used as a rebound and for money. while being a great actor. filling ur ears with so many words. i need advice on how to get rid of the anger, how to forget her or even forgive. im doing everything u can think of. starting from strict NC to improving every aspect of my life. i still cant date, not ready yet. i wish her death every time i remember her. im not coping and suffering for losing her, that's a blessing. im angry for how she used me. and how stupid and easy prey i was. i wanna forget her. it's not healthy being this way. i need help. already hate myself for wasting so many time hating her.
TaraMaiden Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 hating someone to this extent, is like buying poison for her, then drinking it yourself. By hating her as you do, you keep her as close and bound to your heart and mind, as if you loved her to the same depth and intensity. Coco Chanel had a wonderful line about her detractors: "I don't care what you think about me; I don't think about you at all." You need to quit thinking about her. The moment she comes into your mind, sing happy birthday and recite the 7 times table, while bouncing a ball. That should help.
Author iworthmore Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 thank you for your reply taramaiden yea, im drinking the poison and hope she will die from it. i hope what u suggest could help. but i don't think its that easy. hating her not useful, i know. this is wrong, bad and soo unhealthy. wish there was magic formula for that. will do my best, i must stop hating her
TaraMaiden Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 No. Just stop thinking about her. That would be the best place to start.
Author iworthmore Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 how???? lol. cant keep my mind occupied 24/7. even my day is full, not enough time to do all the things i need to. ( work, friend's, gym, hobbies etc..) but still. there r moments she cross my mind. and then i start to curse. lol how to stop thinking about someone? how??? ill pay for that answer
TaraMaiden Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 I already told you. The moment you realise she is in your thoughts, implement a diversion tactic.
BC1980 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 You have to keep diverting your thoughts until it becomes a habit. It won't happen on its own. 1
Author iworthmore Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 thanks people, its the only way and u r right. the problem that when it rains it pours. it needs practice. will do it. best wishes
BC1980 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 thanks people, its the only way and u r right. the problem that when it rains it pours. it needs practice. will do it. best wishes Don't get sucked into a pity party. I had a hard time moving on because I kept ruminating on him by blaming myself, allowing my thoughts to snowball when he crossed my mind, and idealizing the past relationship. Sometimes, we do those things because it prevents up from having to face the music and move on. It's difficult to move on, but it's even worse to stay stuck on the past.
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