bethkend Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Hi all, My question is very simple, why do some guys ignore their gfs after an argument? My bf has a habit of doing this all the time and it leaves me on the other side wondering whether he is just cooling down, need of space or if the relationship is over? It is emotionally draining trying to guess each time as to what state of mind he is in. What should i do when he does this? Ignore him too? Wait for a response? or assume the relationship is over?
mammasita Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Why don't you talk to him about his method of dealing with conflict - not during a fight of course. If he's not willing to compromise with you, then move on.
Author bethkend Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 Hey mammasita, thank you for your reply. i wish i could but he is ignoring me as we speak. the last contact i had from him was yesterday and it sounded like he wanted out. i tried to call him but he did not answer so i thought i give him space to approach me but it is mental torture waiting for the unknown.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Ignoring is at best incredibly rude & at worst emotional abuse.. Get rid of him x 1
Author bethkend Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 i agree, i been going out my mind all day. i have a feeling he wants me to chase him 1
mano Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 ugh, i just hate it too, its emotionally drainig situation, will just start ignoring and not talk after an arguement. And you start wondering whats up n goin insane. Talk to him about your mental perversion
TaraMaiden Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 i agree, i been going out my mind all day. i have a feeling he wants me to chase him It's called 'being passive-aggressive'. Arguing and having the last word without actually having to make any effort because - don't tell me, let me guess - you've run back after him most times with an apology, am I right?
Easyguy14 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Hi all, My question is very simple, why do some guys ignore their gfs after an argument? My bf has a habit of doing this all the time and it leaves me on the other side wondering whether he is just cooling down, need of space or if the relationship is over? It is emotionally draining trying to guess each time as to what state of mind he is in. What should i do when he does this? Ignore him too? Wait for a response? or assume the relationship is over? You should talk to him and straighten things out not ignore because its not going to solve the issue at hand. Men will ignore because we don't like to argue much its not in our nature so please understand that.
Author bethkend Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 It's called 'being passive-aggressive'. Arguing and having the last word without actually having to make any effort because - don't tell me, let me guess - you've run back after him most times with an apology, am I right? this is slightly true, mostly because i hate conflict and i hate feeling like this so i do tend to be the first one to break the ice. recently i have grown a back bone and ignored him back, this normally forces him to initiate contact with me but never to apologise.
TaraMaiden Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 You should talk to him and straighten things out not ignore because its not going to solve the issue at hand. Well, he started it... Men will ignore because we don't like to argue much its not in our nature so please understand that. Oh what a load of BS. men Don't ignore because they don't like to argue - they ignore because it means they can avoid a discussion AND get the upper hand. It's typical male behaviour - retreating into their 'mental man-den' and refusing to face the situation and deal with it like an adult. Instead, they 'take their ball and refuse to play any more, so there'. *sulk*.
TaraMaiden Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 this is slightly true, mostly because i hate conflict and i hate feeling like this so i do tend to be the first one to break the ice. recently i have grown a back bone and ignored him back, this normally forces him to initiate contact with me but never to apologise. I bet he still harbours resentment too, doesn't he? Typical manipulative passive-aggressive behaviour. Oh for chrissakes, he's a phugging drama queen. Sorry hun, but in your position, I'd be fed up with going out with a 9-year-old. I'd dump and No Contact.
Author bethkend Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 Well, he started it... Oh what a load of BS. men Don't ignore because they don't like to argue - they ignore because it means they can avoid a discussion AND get the upper hand. It's typical male behaviour - retreating into their 'mental man-den' and refusing to face the situation and deal with it like an adult. Instead, they 'take their ball and refuse to play any more, so there'. *sulk*. i am on your side on this one, he is the one who has decided to ignore me despite me trying to patch things up so he should be the one to contact me first. besides contacting him now despite him ignoring my call would be more of a reason for him to keep ignoring me.
Author bethkend Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 I bet he still harbours resentment too, doesn't he? Typical manipulative passive-aggressive behaviour. Oh for chrissakes, he's a phugging drama queen. Sorry hun, but in your position, I'd be fed up with going out with a 9-year-old. I'd dump and No Contact. He does indeed. i have never dated a man so stubborn and manipulative in my life.
TaraMaiden Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 i am on your side on this one, he is the one who has decided to ignore me despite me trying to patch things up so he should be the one to contact me first. besides contacting him now despite him ignoring my call would be more of a reason for him to keep ignoring me. Therefore..... Typical manipulative passive-aggressive behaviour. Oh for chrissakes, he's a phugging drama queen. Sorry hun, but in your position, I'd be fed up with going out with a 9-year-old. I'd dump and No Contact.
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