Danny321 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Hi guys, first post here but have been lurking for a while. So i've been seeing this girl for about 5 months. We met online and neither of us expected it to last this long as it is and has been pretty casual. Recently i've started to like her more, not to the point i want a fully committed relationship but definitely 100% exclusivity. I've approached the subject a few times but she never gives much away and i can tell she feels uncomfortable. She still has a live online profile so is likely still dating. I feel uncomfortable with this. I know thats purely jealousy on my part but thought its worth mentioning. Really i'd like to know opinions on whether to continue to invest in her without getting more clarity on the situation or tell her the way i'm feeling(jealousy included) and risk putting her off. Any thoughts are welcome.
TaraMaiden Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 You want different things. How is that going to help in establishing a relationship with her? You want something she doesn't want to give you. There's your answer, I guess.
organizedchaos Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 5 months is a long time to still be casual.
ctxinfl Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Everyone has their own timelines, though for me five months is more than enough time to know if I'd want an exclusive relationship with someone. I wouldn't continue to date someone who wouldn't commit to me after five months.
central Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Five months? Have you had sex? I only ask because she's probably seeing and having sex with other guys since she doesn't want exclusivity. She may like you well enough at the current level, but clearly isn't interested in more. Persist, and she'll probably break it off. Anyway, you've put it out there, and you can either give it more time, break it off yourself, or keep it as is and date other women until you meet someone who does want exclusivity, at least.
mortensorchid Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Saying that it's still casual after 5 months is a little odd to me. If you are dedicated to being casual (if there is such a thing) then you should also see other women. Does she see other guys as well? Whether either party is or isn't, you don't sound like you even care for one another all that much. Probably not a great situation.
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