malxme Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Hi all, looking for a little advice. So my ex bf left me like 3 months ago, I wont go into it (already posted about it and trying to let it go) but long story short it was an ugly and hurtful breakup. Next weekend im going to a friends 21st and im pretty sure my ex will be there (I will be honest here and admit that the thought of seeing him does give me a 'thrill'...) However my question to you is how do I behave? Do I say hello, be polite then carry on my merry way, or ignore him completely? Its awfully tempting to just ignore him after all the hurt he caused, but I feel like it would seem very childish (especially seen alot of people at the party will know our history..). Anyone have any thoughts? Im definitely going to the party regardless, im not going to allow him to ruin a rare fun night out for me!
KatZee Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Don't go out of your way to look for him at all. Arrive early so you're there first, mingle with your friends, have a great time. Just pretend he's not even there. Don't spend the whole night glancing at the door and jumping every time he doesn't walk in. Who knows, perhaps he won't even show up because he knows you'll be there. If he does go and he approaches you just remain calm, be cordial, say "Hey" and then excuse yourself to go talk to other people. Don't engage in conversation or be overly "smiley" with him or phony. It's GOING to be awkward. So keep that to a minimum.
d0nnivain Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 First make sure you look as hot as possible. Fake it 'till you make it is your new mantra along with Never let 'em see you sweat. On the outside your EX needs to see everything is perfect in your life. Don't drink too much because the booze will cause you to do something stupid. Finally, you give them a high tight almost fake but polite smile & say hello. You give non-committal answers & move on quickly. You shouldn't talk to them for more than 1-2 minutes. After the hi, how are you, fine exchange you need to walk away. Saying I have to go get another drink, even if you are holding a full glass is fine. (Just don't get drunk). If you feel like you can't hold it together, leave early.
Author malxme Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 Thanks for the advice guys! I am planning on being dolled up, nice new dress and all, show him what he's missing and all that haha He will likely be there before me, so I guess I need to ensure I have an amazing entrance lol. I doubt he will approach me, but we will likely end up very near each other (we share a circle of friends). You're right though I need to not keep looking for him, or I will probably ruin my night. He hurt me heaps but I'm hoping this will be the start of me letting it go finally..
Haydn Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Just me, but i wouldn`t go. Thanks for the advice guys! I am planning on being dolled up, nice new dress and all, show him what he's missing and all that haha He will likely be there before me, so I guess I need to ensure I have an amazing entrance lol. I doubt he will approach me, but we will likely end up very near each other (we share a circle of friends). You're right though I need to not keep looking for him, or I will probably ruin my night. He hurt me heaps but I'm hoping this will be the start of me letting it go finally..
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