Discover Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 First day of actually realizing that the girl i loved so much is gone... First day in which although i had realized it before we actually talked i feel like constantly crying... First day of being single again, man i hate the loneliness... i just can't wait for my friend to come over so i can break infront of him as i just don't feel like doing it infront of a family member...i just hate it..i tend to be a strong and supportive person,but now i can't help myself but to cry... Can't stop listening to this song... I feel lost..
witmadskilllz Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 not really sure how to feel about it, just something in the way she move because it makes me feel like I can't 'live' without her, it takes me all the way.. I want 'her' to stay.
OhThatGirl Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 There is a saying that I really like.. "Every time you fall in love you say 'I'll never love like this again'" Or something. It's been a long time since I've seen what it really says but the premise is SO spot on. The thing is, this is your first love and your first real relationship so you don't know this. What it's essentially saying is that every time you are in love you think you have the best thing in the world. The perfect girl, the perfect relationship, and that you could never possibly ever feel this way about anyone else. But you know what?? You do. Or maybe not exactly.. because the next time is even better. Sounds like complete lies, right? Or like I don't know the "special" relationship that you two had. I get it. Everyone thinks this way. It's the magical thinking of a breakup... and it's bulls***. The only faith you need to have now is to know that eventually (give it a few months) you will be moving on.. each day gets better. At some point you will be so completely indifferent to this girl you can't even remember what you liked about her. Maybe you'll be objectively able to say what it was, but you will feel nothing. I promise. To help speed the process along, listen to what these people have to say. Don't talk to her. Block her on all social media. Don't talk to people who talk about her. Don't look at her. Don't give yourself the chance to see her. Wipe it all clean. Dont necessarily destroy anything that reminds you of her, instead put all of it in a box.. put the box away and leave it put away. Eventually you can pull them out and think "aww.. that was nice, oh well.." and toss it. Again, I promise you will get to this point. Get busy. Force yourself to do things you don't want to do. Keep moving. Keep up obligations.. sports, games, work, school, spending time with friends, doing things you would (if not for this breakup) otherwise enjoy doing. Write here. Don't write to her. Or her friends. Or this guy that caused an argument. Just come here. You'll get support. And.. I don't know what else. I just reached my max amount of good advice. Just do this stuff. You'll be fine.
thelife Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 I feel your pain. It only gets better with time. Everything else is just a distraction. Best of luck.
David87 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 First day is actually not that bad because you are still in shock, the 2 week mark is the worst but it gets better. I'm 2 months after BU, I miss her sometimes but not as much as I did 1 month ago. Focus on your self, go NC, don't look at pictures and please stop listening to that song and you will be fine. 1
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