dsd85 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 I need some help with figuring out someones intentions with me. I like to see myself as a very respectful girl, but I have an easy going personality. In your opinion, what does it mean when a guy asks "what are you wearing" during a late night phone conversation? I'm worried because a couple of days ago, we almost had sex, but I stopped before my pants were off..we had the talk about me not doing that with people i'm not in a relationship with, and he told me me it's fine, he'll go at my pace...we had a discussion of where this is going (brought up by me because of panic) he said we are still getting to know each other, i agree with him, but just expected him to say more So now my concern in, why is he asking that? He's never asked before? I feel a slight change in his attitude since that talk. Could it be he realizes he's not getting any anytime soon and now he wants to open up the sex talk? Or could it be that he's just getting more comfortable and its healthy? I don't like to talk in a sexual content unless he's a bf. We've been seeing eachother a month and a half.
CrystalCastles Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 "What are you wearing?" sounds like the opening line to sexting. A guy sent that to me once, before he said "I'm going to take your pants off".
Author dsd85 Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 It was during a phone conversation. My concern is, why all of us sudden is he going down that route? is this a healthy progression of getting close? or is it that his mind is in the gutter from day one and now he's getting impatient? I tend to over think a lot
Author dsd85 Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 Not every guy is like you. Didn't really answer my individual situation but thanks anyways.
Mascara Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 You can defuse this by always replying along the lines of "massive granny pants and soup stained pyjamas" He'll get the hint, but you've also kept it non-confrontational.
gaius Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 I've heard granny panties more than once and it's never detered me before. But yeah, it's basically a gateway conversation into something sexual.
Grumpybutfun Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 I need some help with figuring out someones intentions with me. I like to see myself as a very respectful girl, but I have an easy going personality. In your opinion, what does it mean when a guy asks "what are you wearing" during a late night phone conversation? I'm worried because a couple of days ago, we almost had sex, but I stopped before my pants were off..we had the talk about me not doing that with people i'm not in a relationship with, and he told me me it's fine, he'll go at my pace...we had a discussion of where this is going (brought up by me because of panic) he said we are still getting to know each other, i agree with him, but just expected him to say more So now my concern in, why is he asking that? He's never asked before? I feel a slight change in his attitude since that talk. Could it be he realizes he's not getting any anytime soon and now he wants to open up the sex talk? Or could it be that he's just getting more comfortable and its healthy? I don't like to talk in a sexual content unless he's a bf. We've been seeing eachother a month and a half. Tell him you are wearing a hazmat suit with a chastity belt and you lost the damn key. G 1
Leigh 87 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 What worries me is... It doesmt normally take a month and a half for a guy to realize if his crazy about a woman. He should know by now whether or not you're the only girl that he wants to focus on. 1
mammasita Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 He's trying to ease his way into the "sexy talk". If it were me, I would have been a smart a$$ and said my scooby doo pajama onsie with nonskid soles so I don't slip and hurt myself. There's ways to steer these conversations OP. 3
Fondue Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 What worries me is... It doesmt normally take a month and a half for a guy to realize if his crazy about a woman. He should know by now whether or not you're the only girl that he wants to focus on. You have to also understand she's not giving him sexy time. That contributes to mixed feelings, for sure. He probably interprets her "cold behavior" to disinterest. A man's gotta play it safe too, sometimes.
d0nnivain Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 I agree that it was the opening gambit to phone sex. There are a variety of answers. Mine is usually something like "clothes that will be staying on during this conversation." As long as he didn't continue the line of conversation once you made it clear that you didn't want to go in that direction it's no harm, no foul. He made a move. You weren't up for that & he moved on. It's all good, unless he kept pressing the issue. 1
CrystalCastles Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Not every guy is like you. Didn't really answer my individual situation but thanks anyways. Actually I did. I said said that it is typically an opening line to phone sex/sexting. You said you wanted to know his intentions, so I told you. I never said that every guy is like the guy I dated. But this line is the textbook line intro to phone sex/sexting. I think you probably didn't like what I said, even though it's true, and it seems a lot of people are thinking along the lines that I'm thinking.
ShiningMoon Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 "What are you wearing"? Unless you're 12, you know the meaning of this sentence. It just means he wants to have phone sex or sext, whatever. It's pretty clear.
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