Armyguy123 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 So I have been broken up with my ex for 5 months. I started finally doing better at about 4 months. Earlier this week I got a random text from her asking me how my birthday was about 3 weeks after my birthday after I ignored her text on my actual birthday. I briefly replied saying I am fine and my birthday was fun. A day later she texts me again saying she is watching what was "our" show again due to having off work for snow, which to me is an excuse to talk to me. I don't know what she is trying to insinuate or get at. We haven't spoken in 3 months, as I adopted hardcore NC. I briefly replied again saying "It is a great show." I was about to go to a mutual friends party this past weekend, and I have been seeing a girl for about a month were not dating or official. I ran into a conflict and didn't end up going. Turns out I found out my ex was at the party via Facebook. I have her blocked on facebook but she showed up on news feed on our mutual friends page.....and damnnn she looked good. It instantly threw my head in a loop. So now I'm wondering if she purposely went to that party to run into me and is now texting me, probably knowing that I am seeing another girl. Need your opinion Loveshack. I am going to to remain hard core NC but getting multiple texts out of the blue. I'm pretty sure they are breadcrumbs and mean nothing. Just need to get through it...... Its been 5 months I want to feel nothing for her.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 So I have been broken up with my ex for 5 months. I started finally doing better at about 4 months. Earlier this week I got a random text from her asking me how my birthday was about 3 weeks after my birthday after I ignored her text on my actual birthday. I briefly replied saying I am fine and my birthday was fun. A day later she texts me again saying she is watching what was "our" show again due to having off work for snow, which to me is an excuse to talk to me. I don't know what she is trying to insinuate or get at. We haven't spoken in 3 months, as I adopted hardcore NC. I briefly replied again saying "It is a great show." I was about to go to a mutual friends party this past weekend, and I have been seeing a girl for about a month were not dating or official. I ran into a conflict and didn't end up going. Turns out I found out my ex was at the party via Facebook. I have her blocked on facebook but she showed up on news feed on our mutual friends page.....and damnnn she looked good. It instantly threw my head in a loop. So now I'm wondering if she purposely went to that party to run into me and is now texting me, probably knowing that I am seeing another girl. Need your opinion Loveshack. I am going to to remain hard core NC but getting multiple texts out of the blue. I'm pretty sure they are breadcrumbs and mean nothing. Just need to get through it...... Its been 5 months I want to feel nothing for her. If you are responding to her in any way, that's not hardcore No Contact. That's not No Contact at all. No Contact means No Contact whatsoever. When she texts, don't answer!!! And if you can't stand to see her on Facebook at all and blocking isn't working, you have two options a) deactivate your Facebook for a while b) block your mutual friends. And if you can't control yourself from responding to her texts, block her phone number. No Contact means No Contact. It doesn't mean responding to texts. That's contact. 4
StyleOnEm Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 I'm afraid the long way is let time heal things, which could take 1 more year... or you can find someone better than her to speed up that process incredibly.
Author Armyguy123 Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 I still don't know what to think, bc I have been stone cold silent for 3 months. This means she went actively out of her way to contact me. Probably just a moment of weakness for her thinking about me, but means nothing in regards to her wanting to get back together. I've made so much progress I'm gonna try to brush this one off and continue my path forward. I'm also probably going to block our mutual friend on facebook. or at least hide the notifications. I'm just worried now after seeing a picture of her looking good after all this time apart, that this new girl I'm talking to and seeing is just a rebound. I didn't even think about that until now. Luckily I'm leaving in a month for helicopter flight school and that will occupy the majority of my mind and time.
BC1980 Posted February 2, 2014 Posted February 2, 2014 Don't answer her again. She has proven that she is only interested in playing with your emotions. She is only texting you to fish for information and because it hurts her ego that you aren't interested in more of a conversation.
Inviv_girl Posted February 3, 2014 Posted February 3, 2014 You answered her texts- that is not Hardcore NC! NC is not responding at all. Maybe you shouldn't go to that b'day party, think is for the best! delete and block mutual friends so you wont be able to see anything!
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