somedude81 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Anybody ever feel like this? It's 9:22pm on a Friday night and I've had my pajamas on since 9. If I could I'd just go to bed right now and let this day end. I just don't want to do anything. I've got a lot of new video games that I haven't played yet, but no real desire to turn them on. I've spent the entire day inside using the computer and watching anime, TV shows and movies. There is just this feeling in me that if I can't be with my ex, I don't want to do anything at all except for just veg. At least I manged to do a 20 min workout to YouTube in the afternoon. I think this is a combination of depression plus really missing my ex. Tomorrow looks like it will be much of the same.
H245 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 I was in the EXACT same situation last night. My ex was out in the area (I live around the block from all the bars). So I chose to stay in. I had DVR shows, videos games, workouts I could have done. The only thing I did was workout and spend time on the forums here Tonight ended up being a good night, but I fear tomorrow will be a repeat of last night. Hang in there and try to motivate yourself. I know I have a hard time doing the same as well. It gets better with time as they say. Sending you some positive energy 1
Author somedude81 Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 Yeah I forgot to mention, I spend the vast majority on my time on these forums. I'm going to try to motivate myself to go out and at least run some errands and get a haircut.
SadNLonley Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Anybody ever feel like this? It's 9:22pm on a Friday night and I've had my pajamas on since 9. If I could I'd just go to bed right now and let this day end. I just don't want to do anything. I've got a lot of new video games that I haven't played yet, but no real desire to turn them on. I've spent the entire day inside using the computer and watching anime, TV shows and movies. There is just this feeling in me that if I can't be with my ex, I don't want to do anything at all except for just veg. At least I manged to do a 20 min workout to YouTube in the afternoon. I think this is a combination of depression plus really missing my ex. Tomorrow looks like it will be much of the same. IMO, you're doing pretty good. At first, I was going to be at 8 pm. On weekends I didnt have the kids, I'd wake up for a couple hours, take a nap, wake up for a couple hours, take a nap. I didnt do much of anything. Even now after 9 weeks of NC, I dont have alot of energy when Im alone. I could use to lose 20-30 lbs, but i dont even have it in me to care right now. Right now is the best time to care. Im by myself. In due time i guess. At least you did a 20 min workout. IMO you are doing good.
JDPT Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 get creative, go online and find activities you can do to simply kill time.
BC1980 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Is there a project you can throw yourself into? What about volunteering? Any new hobbies you can pick up? I know it's difficult because it leaves a void, but use this as a time to totally reinvent yourself.
Author somedude81 Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 Is there a project you can throw yourself into? What about volunteering? Any new hobbies you can pick up? I know it's difficult because it leaves a void, but use this as a time to totally reinvent yourself. Yup, there are several projects I can do. It's how I've kept myself busy and sane this past month. The trouble is usually at night when I'm too tired to do anything. That's when I just want to sit on my couch and caress her legs while we watch TV
Mr Scorpio Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 I know one thing that will allow you to escape from the constant memories while at the same time allowing you to acknowledge that you're sad as hell. You just got it tuned a few days ago. 1
Art_Critic Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 pajamas...... You'll get out of your funk... it's cold outside and you have been thru some some relationship stuff... nothing wrong with crashing...time...give it time... 2
organizedchaos Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 What about hanging out with friends? 1
Author somedude81 Posted January 26, 2014 Author Posted January 26, 2014 Sigh, now is the hard time. Today was pretty productive. I had no problem staying busy. But at 9pm. Now what? The time I spent with her feels like it was a dream. Did I really have it so good? It was such a brief period of my life.
pickflicker Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Google some recipes and get cooking!! Bake a batch of cookies. Then eat all of them 2
True Gent Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 The trouble is usually at night when I'm too tired to do anything. That's when I just want to sit on my couch and caress her legs while we watch TV Oh, I miss that one. Sitting with her legs over my lap and caresing them watching TV. 1
Forever Learning Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Google some recipes and get cooking!! Bake a batch of cookies. Then eat all of them Yes I was going to suggest cooking or baking. Also getting out for a walk, and look up an organization you can volunteer at. The SPCA and/or other animal rescue organizations have TONS of young female volunteers.... No joke. You MUST go volunteer somewhere. You will meet people (women).
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