At first i was excited that my photo has gotten me 8 phone numbers online but...

[WP4046]

I realized that I am a guy and that I am the one expected to pay and cannot talk to that many women online LOL Only a women can talk to 8 guys since she is getting treated and can pick and choose. I had to remember I was on a budget and even though some of them were hot I need to start eliminating so I can get down to 2 ladies.

 

 

I can't hit it off with too many girls because I will be BROKE from winning and dinning LOL

[Easyguy14]

I realized that I am a guy and that I am the one expected to pay and cannot talk to that many women online LOL Only a women can talk to 8 guys since she is getting treated and can pick and choose. I had to remember I was on a budget and even though some of them were hot I need to start eliminating so I can get down to 2 ladies.

 

 

I can't hit it off with too many girls because I will be BROKE from winning and dinning LOL

 

 

This online site could be a scam so forewarned is forearmed.

[antonio1149]

I realized that I am a guy and that I am the one expected to pay and cannot talk to that many women online LOL Only a women can talk to 8 guys since she is getting treated and can pick and choose. I had to remember I was on a budget and even though some of them were hot I need to start eliminating so I can get down to 2 ladies.

 

I can't hit it off with too many girls because I will be BROKE from winning and dinning LOL

 

If you're looking for a LTR, you only need to hit it off with one girl. In which case, you have no worries. Talking to women online is free. You can meet the best candidates for cheap or free "screening" dates. When you zero in on the one or two best prospects**, then you can "wine and dine," knowing that you're investing your limited resources in dates with the biggest potential payoff.

 

If you're just looking for sex with as many women as you can hook, then yes, you'll probably have to wine and dine many of them to drum up interest.

 

** Having done much online dating, I doubt your problem will be that you are overwhelmed with an avalanche of very attractive, high-quality women.

[paris4]

Ive been debating about online dating. To me there seems to be so many attractive people online with great qualities (based on what they wrote). When one finally meet them though, do they often turn out to be disappoints? Do they tend to look different from their photos/exaggerated their qualities in their writing?

[Phantom888]

Ive been debating about online dating. To me there seems to be so many attractive people online with great qualities (based on what they wrote). When one finally meet them though, do they often turn out to be disappoints? Do they tend to look different from their photos/exaggerated their qualities in their writing?

 

The key is to NOT waste time on people that you KNOW are not a good match with you. It's really easy to tell early on....your instincts, red flag, conversations can really help. If you meet and you find him/her to be very different than profile, then he/she is likely to lie and you should move on quickly. It's really easy to weed out people on O.L.D. as long as you know not to waste time on non-potentials. This way you can concentrate your efforts on real potentials.

 

I am an average dude in late 30s living in Los Angeles. When I was on Match early this year, I got dates consistently (1-2) per week for a few months. I honestly don't understand why some men find it so difficult to find nice attractive women online. I was just being my self...honest, not-creepy and a little old-fashioned. I notice my only limiting factor was that I have 2 small kids and a lot of women in early 30s want to have kids of their own. I have met some wonderful ladies, and I think people should really try it for themselves.

[Disco Lemonade]

Ive been debating about online dating. To me there seems to be so many attractive people online with great qualities (based on what they wrote). When one finally meet them though, do they often turn out to be disappoints? Do they tend to look different from their photos/exaggerated their qualities in their writing?

 

Maybe you could ask to exchange selfies or something to get the "current view"?

[Phantom888]

Having done much online dating, I doubt your problem will be that you are overwhelmed with an avalanche of very attractive, high-quality women.

 

Very attractive, high-quality (funny, educated, fit, honest, nice) women do NOT put out easily because they know the concept of supply and demand. If you want those women, you need to really stand out. My GF literally received 20-30 winks/emails a day when she was online dating. Your mission is to be yourself and hopefully those women click with you. Don't pretend to be someone you are not, because when you get busted, it's not pretty.

[MrCastle]

The key is to NOT waste time on people that you KNOW are not a good match with you. It's really easy to tell early on....your instincts, red flag, conversations can really help. If you meet and you find him/her to be very different than profile, then he/she is likely to lie and you should move on quickly. It's really easy to weed out people on O.L.D. as long as you know not to waste time on non-potentials. This way you can concentrate your efforts on real potentials.

 

I am an average dude in late 30s living in Los Angeles. When I was on Match early this year, I got dates consistently (1-2) per week for a few months. I honestly don't understand why some men find it so difficult to find nice attractive women online. I was just being my self...honest, not-creepy and a little old-fashioned. I notice my only limiting factor was that I have 2 small kids and a lot of women in early 30s want to have kids of their own. I have met some wonderful ladies, and I think people should really try it for themselves.

 

I think two factors are in play here:

 

1.) A paid site as opposed to a free one

2.) Age bracket

 

People in their 30s are a little bit more serious and often not as superficial when it comes to dating online. Most of them have already played the field and are looking for something serious.

 

And people who are willing to pay money for a dating site are by nature more serious about finding a partner than someone on a free site.

[WP4046]

I think two factors are in play here:

 

1.) A paid site as opposed to a free one

2.) Age bracket

 

People in their 30s are a little bit more serious and often not as superficial when it comes to dating online. Most of them have already played the field and are looking for something serious.

 

And people who are willing to pay money for a dating site are by nature more serious about finding a partner than someone on a free site.

 

I find it funny that women don't want desperate men but tend to put in their profiles that they want to get married. Lol

[pickflicker]

I find it funny that women don't want desperate men but tend to put in their profiles that they want to get married. Lol

 

One does not have to be desperate in order to want to get married. They don't go hand in hand all the time.

[WP4046]

One does not have to be desperate in order to want to get married. They don't go hand in hand all the time.

 

 

It doesn't need to be in a profile

[pickflicker]

It doesn't need to be in a profile

 

They're being clear about what they want. Again, being clear doesn't equal being desperate. Perhaps they're weeding out 'cuddle buddies' early.

[WP4046]

They're being clear about what they want. Again, being clear doesn't equal being desperate. Perhaps they're weeding out 'cuddle buddies' early.

 

It doesn't equal being desperate because it's something a women wants

[pickflicker]

It doesn't equal being desperate because it's something a women wants

 

Why does wanting something mean you have to be desperate to have it?

 

If they want to put that they want to be married on their profile, I don't see why it's such a giant issue. If there are people out there using internet dating for sex, it stands to reason that there are some people using it to find a husband/wife.

 

Horses for courses.

[Smthn_Like_Olivia]

Who says you have to wine and dine all these women? Do coffee meets and walks in the park - inexpensive short meets to determine which ones you'd actually be interested in dining with. Dating is not expensive unless you make it expensive.

 

Dinner dates are blah. I much preferred coffee or walking around talking and seeing sites.

[antonio1149]

I honestly don't understand why some men find it so difficult to find nice attractive women online.

 

If you're okay with dating your exact age or older, and are open to women who are average-looking or worse, it's not that hard. If you want someone more than a year or two younger, and above-average looking, you're out of luck. Research shows that most women online have a preference for younger guys, especially in the 40+ range.

[crederer]

This online site could be a scam so forewarned is forearmed.

 

I laughed at this then felt sad. I actually know two guys that have been victims of this very same thing.....god damn why does that make me feel so sh*tty?

[WP4046]

If you're okay with dating your exact age or older, and are open to women who are average-looking or worse, it's not that hard. If you want someone more than a year or two younger, and above-average looking, you're out of luck. Research shows that most women online have a preference for younger guys, especially in the 40+ range.

 

 

How many younger guys are trying to hook up with 40 year old woman?