they honeymoon phase

[jefermelesyeux]

just curious how you guys feel about the 'honeymoon phase.'

 

if you don't know what it is:

the period when you first meet a new potential love interest during which you're talking constantly, always thinking about each other, etc.

 

this 'phase' doesn't end for some people, but i personally think it's normal to kind of fade after a long period of time, and i see nothing wrong with it.

 

thoughts?

[Aquanut]

It's fine as long as it's not the honeymoon from hell.

[Zeroes]

I think it's one of the most amazing phases/feelings you can have in life.

 

For me though it only does tend to last a couple of weeks or months before the relationship becomes "normalised" to me, but not in a bad way.

[Mrlonelyone]

The phase is an established fact. If you read up on it psychologist call it limerence. It is sometimes called a "false form of love". The reason is that this phase can end very suddenly after lasting up to three years. It always ends.

 

They say the reason for the honeymoon feelings is that it gets people close together so they can form a more lasting bond or discover there is no real basis for a relationship.

 

Then there are people who bail as soon as the honeymoon is over and who never realize that mature, long term love, doesn't feel like crazy longing.

 

To me it is a good feeling phase. It is even better now that I know it never last. All I want is someone who will stick it out with me till we can get to that comfortable long term kind of love.

[Stay]

Just don't put any emphasis on it lasting or wanting that phase back, it doesn't come back unless you find someone new. My ex kept telling me she loved that first year we had, well I did too but it can't just come back. She kept pushing it to be like that again and eventually when it wasn't she left me. I hope she learns and realized that I really did give her my all and I think she's probably realizing that now.