Cream Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 just got a text from her: "Babe.. I'm sorry. I'm not myself.. Haven't been in a while.. Trust that I am using my time reflecting on me, my family, and us.. I'm sorry you've felt the way you have and sorry for treating you the way I have.. It's just been so hard for me lately.. Hope you still have faith in us.. Cuz I do. I love you." wow! i'm shocked and really don't know what to think. i haven't responded. what should i do?
Simon Phoenix Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 just got a text from her: "Babe.. I'm sorry. I'm not myself.. Haven't been in a while.. Trust that I am using my time reflecting on me, my family, and us.. I'm sorry you've felt the way you have and sorry for treating you the way I have.. It's just been so hard for me lately.. Hope you still have faith in us.. Cuz I do. I love you." wow! i'm shocked and really don't know what to think. i haven't responded. what should i do? Don't respond. She didn't say she wants you back. In fact, the "It's just been so hard for me lately" comment makes it look like she's looking for a "aww, it's ok" comment from you so she can relieve her guilt. She needs to come more correct than that. 3
Author Cream Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 Don't respond. She didn't say she wants you back. In fact, the "It's just been so hard for me lately" comment makes it look like she's looking for a "aww, it's ok" comment from you so she can relieve her guilt. She needs to come more correct than that. mannn. yeah she's showing all her guilt right here. but i'm confused, "faith in us" ???
Simon Phoenix Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 mannn. yeah she's showing all her guilt right here. but i'm confused, "faith in us" ??? Don't overthink it. Let her expand on that if she chooses. Unfortunately, "us" could mean you and her as friends. As hard as it is, don't guess as to what she means. If she's serious, she'll make things more clear as time goes on. Basically, she broke it, it's up to her to go above and beyond the call of duty to fix it. An ambiguous message like she sent isn't enough. 2
chris21422 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Yea looks like she's just saying she still loves you but needs more time or something to figure herself out... Doesn't indicate wanted to get back together.. Best thing to do is don't respond and wait for her next move. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 OP, I'm glad you actually came to ask and get advice though. Judging by your past threads, the fact that you haven't done anything is a sign of growth. It's hard, but I think it's best to keep quite and see what her next move is. 2
ithappenedagain Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 How long has it been since the BU? And how long has NC been in effect?
lauri Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 *sigh...some girls drive me wild. Can you explain to me what she said when she ended with you? For example, did she say lets just be friends, etc?
Author Cream Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 *sigh...some girls drive me wild. Can you explain to me what she said when she ended with you? For example, did she say lets just be friends, etc? when she ended it she said. things like "who knows, we might get back. if we mean something, we will find our way back." she wanted to remain friends but i told her its not a good idea, because i still love her like that. she didn't like that and was all depressed and angry at me.
pickflicker Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 when she ended it she said. things like "who knows, we might get back. if we mean something, we will find our way back." she wanted to remain friends but i told her its not a good idea, because i still love her like that. she didn't like that and was all depressed and angry at me. Well, she dumped you, so she can suck it up. No reply. She has to be specific. Ignoring this kind of breadcrumb send a powerful response. By ignoring her, you're saying "You have to do better than that." 2
Chi townD Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 I agree with everyone. That text really didn't tell you anything. Other than leaving you confused.
Softie Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 And it's just a text, don't go running to her on a text
CelticGibson Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 This girl knows English, I presume yes? Then it's up to her to spell it out in plain English. Anything else is just head games and this contact is exactly that. There's no need for the cryptic message or this thread where you are asking strangers what she may be thinking. Remember if it's anything but YES then it's NO....
BC1980 Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 For all you know, she could have been drunk or had a weak moment and fired off a text. Definitely good that you didn't respond. If her intentions are true, she will do better than that.
fixing Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Yeah Simon Pheonix first reply nailed it. Her text reeks of 'me me me me' Dont respond. She really needs to make much more of an effort to sway you. That text didnt make the cut. NEXT!
Haydn Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Had similar hand written letters in the past. I think what Simon says is correct. She will find a way to knock down your door if she has to. She could be looking for your forgiveness as well. Sit tight, lets see how far she goes. Good luck.
The pain is going Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Do nothing... think about it....if you do reply make her wait....but don't rush a reply..... but then maybe no reply at all..... she needs to do more....make her earn your attention....some say make the dumper walk over broken glass....its probably a breadcrumb.... just to know your still there if she needs you... good luck.. let us know what you do.
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 when she ended it she said. things like "who knows, we might get back. if we mean something, we will find our way back." she wanted to remain friends but i told her its not a good idea, because i still love her like that. she didn't like that and was all depressed and angry at me. Whoaaa!!! This broad is about as selfish as they come. Shes using you to get over you and could care less about your pain and suffering. Why would you even want this person in your life?
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