southbound Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 I'll explain more later but I need some fast one-liners. Pronto! I'm getting breadcrumb calls and texts as I type from a very recent break-up ex. I need some hard-hitting, no holds barred, "she treated you like ****, cheated on you, and now after BU is looking for guilt-easing, ego boosting, you're still on her rope" reasons not to respond. I'm talking hard-core, NC philosophy justifications on why responding with anything is a mistake. That side of me, you all know and are in touch with that side I'm talking about, wants to answer these calls and texts coming after a short period of NC and point out all the reasons why we're done and it's a good thing. I know know know know that NC and no response is best. I'm totally in the right, she was busted red handed, and is now trying to weasel into some "talk" so she can justify her actions and pull the whole blame-shifting, deflection, "yeah but you blah blah blah". Hit me loveshack!! I need to be slapped in the face like I'm a boxer in the corner, bloodied and battered, about to give up. What say you?
flightplan Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 A MAN doesn't need a pep talk to do what's right. Put yourself in John Wayne's boots. What would he do? Do you think he would take her shyte? 1
Author southbound Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 Good start. John Wayne. Manly! Just got another text. Slight change from the first reason she texted (which was asking to help her with something) to "you told me you don't want to talk about us...." Keep 'em coming. Need more. Slight bit of background you can work with. 2.5 year relationship now, new dude comes in the picture last summer, we were in a bad spot. She goes out with him, sleeps with him, claims to not like him and have no feelings. Uses me (like a doormat) to play games with him. Me, being the in love dumb***, thinks it will help make him go away, plays along. She makes more mistakes, falls into his trap, we have a fallout and part ways. Come back together in the fall, start working on things, she does several things to tell him in no uncertain terms to F off. He starts sneaking back around recently, she starts acting differently, and I recently see calls from him on her phone (she blocked his texts but not his phone calls). At 2AM the other night we both wake up to her phone ringing, at which point she jumps out of bed, starts trying to find it and can't. Finally does, claims it was an alarm (who sets an alarm at 2 AM? and alarms don't stop after 4 rings unless you stop them). Viciously hides her phone the next morning when I ask about it. Give me some more. I don't need a pep-talk, I'm not answering anything (so far). But I don't have the patience to search through the best NC replies on here right now...(and I kinda half want to see what LS community can do when someone is in need of quick support.
ithappenedagain Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Hey. Here is the best 'knock em down' piece of advise I can give to you. Someone else's penis was inside of her vagina - while you were dating. CARRY ON! 2
ithappenedagain Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Sure, go ahead and text her back....if you want to be her little bitch! How about that? 1
Chi townD Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Here's an idea....TURN OFF YOUR PHONE!!!! 1
Author southbound Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 Did that. Voice calls, FB, even put an auto-response on g mail to say not accepting messages anymore. Dang iMessage though. You can block them on your iphone, which I did, but there's no way to keep it off computer unless you turn the whole thing off for all contacts (that I know of anyway. if someone knows a way, let me know) No worries though. Held strong. I'm sure round 2 will come next time I open the laptop.. Savoring the small victory of no response and them looking for guilt-ease for now. One day at a time....
bubbaganoosh Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Here's another piece of advice. You don't need any wizz bang smart ass zingers. All your doing is replying to her messages. Get it? Your replying and by doing that tells me that you don't want to let go so stop answering her. If you want to get in a "my dog's bigger than your dog" battle and start with the "your mother drives a pickle truck" put down then I have to ask you and I'm serious. How old are you?
Author southbound Posted January 25, 2014 Author Posted January 25, 2014 Think maybe you missed what I was asking for. Wasn't looking for something to say, was looking for all the support on why I should say nothing. nevermind though, I didn't respond. Just saw myself on the edge and came here instead to put my energy into something else and not into the message the weak side of me wanted to send.
Chi townD Posted January 25, 2014 Posted January 25, 2014 Did that. Voice calls, FB, even put an auto-response on g mail to say not accepting messages anymore. Dang iMessage though. You can block them on your iphone, which I did, but there's no way to keep it off computer unless you turn the whole thing off for all contacts (that I know of anyway. if someone knows a way, let me know) No worries though. Held strong. I'm sure round 2 will come next time I open the laptop.. Savoring the small victory of no response and them looking for guilt-ease for now. One day at a time.... Good man! Stay strong!
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